Don't do, what you don't want, to be done to you...

There are people who swear that they are faithful because they have never messed with anyone else in a bed, and it turns out that they have been failing their partner in everything else for years. In the presence, in the word, in the agreements that one day they promised and were releasing in silence. Be careful, because that is also treason, even if it is not socially punished.

That's why real fidelity goes far beyond the body, it's a matter of consistency, of being the same when they're seeing you and when they're not.

The real truth is that no relationship is broken from one day to the next. It breaks down in every conversation that was avoided, in every need that someone swallowed to avoid inconveniencing, in the agreements that were ignored until one day the two wake up living under the same roof but completely alone.

I'm going to say something that many people who read me maybe won't like, and that is that there are people who prefer to lose a relationship, rather than review what they have to change, because it's easier to explain why the other is wrong and it's harder to look in the mirror and ask ourselves... What we are bringing to the.problem, to the breaking of the link? That's why the.the issue has never been who is right? The point is, who is willing to do the work that the relationship needs to be saved, because that's where many stories change after an infidelity.

When internal communication is lacking, everyday life with the.pateja becomes a ticking time bomb. Building real and sustainable agreements requires maturity. Let's not do what we don't.we like to be made... Is it easy to live like this? No. Integrity usually requires renunciations, self-control and courage. People, opportunities and paths will always appear, which will seem better to us than what we already have, but if to achieve them we must betray our values, our word, or those who love us. Integrity is uncomfortable, because it demands maturity, but the reward of sleeping with a clear conscience is priceless.

Holding the word and being consistent is not being silly, it's being an adult with judgment. Loyalty to our partner has become a scarce resource, but blaming gender does not solve the problem. I think the key is to review our own boundaries and choose to bond with adults who do stand by their word.

There is no such thing as perfection, but the conscious effort to maintain consistency and respect the other is what gives that peace of mind, which is priceless. A healthy relationship requires two adults willing to take responsibility for their emotions and their agreements...

In the end, the most important fidelity is the one you have to your own word and the one who cannot sustain that, my dear people, cannot sustain anything. I hope that these reflections will help us all to review how we are building our bonds.

Janitze 🍀