A friend, he may not talk to me for days...

However, I write to him, just "hello", and he knows that something is wrong with me...

People talk a lot about finding the love of their life. But it also seems extraordinary to me to talk about finding the friends in your life. We celebrate anniversaries as a couple, but we almost never celebrate twenty years of friendship. And sustaining a friendship for so long is also a story of love, forgiveness, adaptation and, above all, choice.

The disqualification is very sad... very sad! Because it is a silent killer of love.

Please, let's write this down in our mind: Some love stories, never needed a kiss. I dedicate this post to my few friends in my life. Because the friend of our life is not the one who never fails. He's the one who can get it wrong without turning every mistake into a goodbye.

He is the one who knew you in the plural, because he knew all our human versions, in addition to those that we try to be and also those that we become. I really have a great friend since my childhood, her name is Jannet, she has known until later the avatars of life changed my plans.

Many times he saw me choose the wrong person. She even warned me, and I didn't listen to her, but she still accompanied me, and when everything went wrong, she made an enormous effort not to tell me abruptly... "I told you so", Janitze.

There is a part of friendship that is rarely talked about, it is learning to love someone without trying to direct their life... That's still what she does.

It is very easy to love when we coincide. When we think similar. When we approve of each other's decisions.

The difficult part begins when someone we love takes a path that we would never have chosen.

Then we must ask ourselves: do I want her... or do I want the version of her, with which I feel calm?

Over the years, I've come to understand that loving also involves letting go of control. Accept that the people we love have the right to change, to make mistakes, to try different paths and even to make decisions that we do not understand.

The deepest friendship is not the one that never goes through disagreements, but the one that manages to survive them without turning love and connection into rewards for good behavior.

To really want is to be able to say:
“I don't think the same as you. I wouldn't have done the same. But I still love you and I'm here for you.”

And at this age, for me, few things feel more valuable than having people with whom we can continue to grow... even when we grow in different directions, even if that growth takes me far. Because while some loves say..."Choose me”" true friendship often tells you...“I chose your life.

Janitze.🌷