Relying on yourself might contradict what I've published in the past regarding friends and how no one is an island. But there are always two sides to something.
At the end of the day, when you've got no friends to ask for help for, no more family members to rely on, and no kind of aid from anyone in the world, you're left to your own devices. And this is what I would like for many others to possess, a trait of independence.
As I graduated senior high school, I was excited to go to college in another province, far away from my hometown. I was excited about the experience I was going to learn and the independence that I would have to possess, but sadly that never happened because of the pandemic.
Independence from my parents was supposed to help me transition from a young teenager to a responsible adult able to tackle and solve my own problems for myself.
Another case of independence that I see very often, and is very confusing for others, is the independence from friends. I know friends are an essential group of people who come and go in our lives, but that does not mean that they will stick with you forever.
Eventually, they will grow up, have families of their own, and they won't be as accessible as they were before when you could call them at 8 PM for a drink, and they'd be there immediately.
I know my friends won't be there when I call them if I'm at Bukidnon because it's almost a 10-hour ride, and they'd be too busy as they are also attending classes at their own courses, so I have to learn how to deal with my problems myself.
The last case that I see very often is for couples. I have seen my classmates way back from 10th grade and 12th grade who now have babies of their own, and they did not finish college yet, have no source of income, and their parents are also struggling with daily life.
The "fathers" of their children? Well, they gave money in the first few months, but then they quickly ran away from their responsibility and found another woman to court, leaving their ex-girlfriend solely responsible for taking care of their child.
So not only do they have to tend to their kids' needs, they also have to find ways to make money for their consumption.
And this is why independence is so important.
We must not look to others when we need something.
My girlfriend and I had the same exact feeling when we talked regarding our future.
We studied very hard and tried our best to attain good grades because both of us have dreams of our own. And we promised to help each other reach our goals in the future so that both of us would become successful and be able to provide everything our parents want in life.
Do you agree with the message I'm trying to portray?
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