We seem to have an anger problem in the world, and by problem i don't mean like we get angry to often.
Emotions are involuntary responses triggered by inner or environmental stimulus. You can't tell to someone what to feel and when to feel it. If we had control over our emotions we would probably just fell happy all the time.
If your emotions are here to help you survive than anger might actually have a purpose. Anger is the outcome of the fight or flight response, whenever your mind perceives some threat you have to options based on a rapid assessment of the situation. If you think you don't have a chance to win the potential conflict your body is going to go in to flight you fell emotions like fear or anxiety that makes you avoid that situation.
If through your quick assessment of the situation you you realize that you can win the potential conflict you go in to fight the emotion that is generally associated with this is anger. The purpose of anger is to eliminate the threat, and after the threat was eliminated you can restore to a calm state and inner peace.
Anger is not always violence, as a matter a fact it is a form of threat management, in order to be an act of violence you have to use force in a coercive way, to gain something from someone in an unfair way, which implies violating the rights of that person. If you are responding with anger to someone that coerced you it is simply self defense force, which is not immoral.
The problem with fear is that in running from the threat, in the best case scenario you get to escape from the threat unharmed but you are not eliminating the threat. And when you just escape from the threat you have another chance to re encounter it which can lead to chronic anxiety. While responding with anger to a threat is more likely to eliminate that threat because we all want to avoid conflict, after that person that attempted to violate you has a confrontation with you it is less likely that it will attack you again. And this is how you stop living in fear, the opposite of fear is anger. Felling angry towards the thing that you are afraid of, is going to make you confront it and from confrontation is much more likely to get some closure with your anxiety. Chronic anxiety exists from the illusion that you have no chance to win that conflict and, it is when the victim realizes and finds a way to fight back that the abuse stops.
Why Anger is a Taboo
If anger is healthy beneficial emotions on top of that involuntary like any other emotions, then why it is not being accepted by society as normal healthy behavior.
It is a taboo because we like to control each others, and when someone attempts to stop that control more control is being used to confuse that person that what does he or she feels is not normal or that is destructive or hurtful. And because of this people suppress their anger, and self sabotage.
Suppress or Express
Like with any other emotions you have to options you can chose to suppress or express not felling is not an option. Suppression is always bad because you are sabotaging yourself but are any constructive or destructive ways to express it?
Well what i would consider a destructive expression of anger is when your anger is either hurting yourself or innocent people. This generally happens through some athletic outlet like martial arts, running, boxing etc. The other destructive expression of anger is when people become bully, because someone hurt them they have all this suppressed anger that are not expressing with the people that hurts them and they find weaker vulnerable people then they are and use them as an outlet.
Not only this way of expressing anger are hurting yourself and other people around you, but is also not an effective way to deal with it. Because you are not eliminating the threat of your anger to start with.
So what is a constructive expression of anger: any use of defensive force.
