VIOLENCE: It is when a person, a group, the family, the authorities, the community or society use and abuse the power they have to forcefully impose their ideas on those who are weaker, more vulnerable. On those who have disadvantages or cannot defend themselves.
Violence can occur in many ways, every day or in many places.
Throughout our lives, human beings live situations in which we get angry, lose control and assault other people, other times we have had to live aggressions in many ways.
DIFFERENCES BETWEEN SEX AND GENDER
Violence against women is based on the great inequalities that exist between women and men. Therefore, it is important that we know before the differences between sex and gender, these differences will allow us to understand why men abuse and impose their will on women.
Sex: Biological characteristics and differences are: if it is female or male, and Anatomical: if you have a vagina or penis and testicles.
Gender: It refers to the things we have to do and the situations we have to live differently women and men. It is about the way in which others see us and how we are expected to think and act depending on whether we are women or men. In the family, at school, in the community and in society we are educated so that women are sweet, submissive, sentimental and passive, so that we can do the homework and take care of the children.
Men are taught that they have to be strong, active, aggressive and dominant, that they have to work because it is their obligation to take the money home, there is also the belief that men should not cry or show their emotions.
EXAMPLES OF BEHAVIORS THAT MOST PEOPLE BELIEVE ARE CORRECT FOR WOMEN AND MAN.
• In sexual intercourse, women are the ones who have to "take care".
• Men "do not cry" should not show their emotions to others, if they do it is because they are weak.
• It is the obligation of women to care for daughters and sons, the sick and the elderly. Men don't take care of themselves, not even themselves, because they don't know how to do it.
• The man is the one who must "conquer" the woman, it is not tolerated that the woman takes the initiative, if she does it is bad sight, she is said to be a "buscona".
HOW CAN WE KNOW IF WE ARE LIVING VIOLENCE?
The abuse of power of men against women occurs in almost every place of society: on the street, at work, in the community and in a very worrying way in the family.
It is very likely that you, like many women, do not know what violence against women is or rather, that they do not recognize the different ways in which it can appear, because acts of violence occur every day, They make custom and are considered as something that is seen "naturally" in the daily living of the family.
But violence against women is by no means natural. It is very important that you know that you can change the violent behavior of men and also that of women who have experienced violence.
WHAT IS VIOLENCE AGAINST WOMEN?
Men, those who believe and feel very "male," use and abuse their power against women, for example:
• Control and generate fear of your partner.
• They make women less, humiliate her in front of others.
• Use any pretext not to give the expense.
• They force women to have sex with deception or by force.
These are just a few examples, but surely there are many others that you know or have heard about them.
We must understand that for a woman who lives a situation of violence every day with her partner, it is very difficult for her to realize or to realize what is happening to her. Violence against women has a cycle that repeats itself:
The man mistreats, humiliates or beats the woman, then his conscience reminds him, he repents, he promises that he will change, that he will never behave badly again, the woman believes or is afraid of him and forgives him, then, the two enter the stage of reconciliation and soon the man returns to repeat his acts of violence against women.
Violence generates fear, shame and isolation in women, which prevents them from reacting and causing them to often not seek or find support to get out of this cycle.
