This is why most people put family first in everything. We can easily let anything go but when it comes to family it's very difficult.
People treasure family more than even themselves, people can go hungry, people can go bankrupt and break every rule just to ensure that their families are okay.
It's beautiful to care so much about our families and even go extra miles to ensure they are okay but we need to know our limits.
Family is blood and it means so much but family should not be a cage and a reason for our stagnation.
I have a friend who is the first born in their family. Since their father passed, he took the family's responsibility upon himself.
He pays his siblings school fees, buys food, pays light bills and all other things. Funny enough, he is a private school teacher.
Every penny he makes goes to the family, and this guy is just in his mid twenties. Most times he is depressed, and looking worried. If you ask him what's wrong? he will only say “you won't understand.”
One day he decided to open up to me about how the responsibility was weighing him down and I felt bad.
The annoying part is even his siblings, who are old enough to start up something and start contributing to the family are reluctant, they assume it is his cross to carry.
Seriously, I feel for him, but there was nothing I could do rather than to advise him to start saying “no” to some demands and concentrate on building himself first.
It is not wrong to be supportive to the family but if you have not yet lifted yourself, you can't lift another.
There are so many ways that families are bringing people down these days. It's even better when it comes plain, but when it comes in the form of responsibility, it comes with emotions which cages us. Sometimes, it takes only the mercies of God to break free.
I love my family so much, but I think I will be harming them if I put them ahead of my dreams. Today, if anything goes wrong with my purpose and I become less in society, trust me, even my family won't regard me anymore.
This is why it is important, to be strict with our destinies, it doesn't matter whether it is family or friends, as long as they are trying to limit us, we should not hesitate to set boundaries.
We can't cut family off but we can set boundaries, they may call you names and say horrible things about you but if you are still on track, forget them and keep going, when you eventually get to the top, the same people who said terrible things about you will be the ones to praise you.
So, yes, if family is a threat to your growth, set boundaries and be strict. They are family but everyone has his/her to live, let emotion not fool you and keep you from growing. The equation is always you first, then family.
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