Early boundaries or face the later consequences

One of my friends called me yesterday. She told me that her boss had been mistreating her. She couldn't leave because it was hard to get a new job here, so she was just expressing herself to me, and my advice was to quit because I felt when a job is after your life you must find a way to leave that place as fast as possible and if she can’t cope without the job, She should be looking for another job and immediately after getting a new job, she should quit her present job.

We all have this soft spot for some people in our lives just because they are important to us, so we tolerate them. We let him get away with so many things we disagree with, and it's not because we don't know what is right, but it is because of the love we have for them, or our survival is based on them, this might be anything important to us, so we decided to tolerate them. when we decide to go with things that we do not particularly agree with or try to cope with things that we don't agree with, there is always a consequence for it that we pay in the near future.

The power of continuity

Some people don't know what they are doing is wrong because we don't tell them, and this is not their fault. Some people have been doing or getting away with so many wrong things all their lives, so they believe it is normal for them to do it. This means that just because people around them have not been correcting them, they feel entitled to what they are doing, which is wrong, and some people, it's not like that, they just want to try that bad behavior with you and immediately, you let them do it they will never stop doing it to you.

Allowing someone to repeatedly engage in bad behavior can create a sense of continuity that perpetuates the behavior. If you continue to tolerate their misbehavior, they may continue to do it, potentially showing others that they can get away with it. It's important to set boundaries and communicate clearly that their behavior is not acceptable.

Some Boundaries can be late

Establishing clear boundaries is crucial, and the key is to start communicating early. Sometimes, we struggle to set boundaries because we try to tolerate or accept things we normally wouldn't, hoping that the other person will change. However, if we allow them to continue their behavior without setting boundaries, it will become more difficult to do so in the future. The reason is, that they have been getting away with it. By the time you try to create boundaries, they might already be resistant to the idea, knowing that what they've been doing is wrong but finding it hard to accept.

You might lose yourself

Sometimes relationships end prematurely because we avoid addressing important issues, and relationships tend to last longer when we address this early, a perfect example is the one that happened to my friend because if you allow your boss to mistreat you without speaking up, he may continue to treat you poorly, assuming that it is acceptable. This can cause us to lose sight of our values and compromise our beliefs. To prevent this, it is important to address conflicts early on and not tolerate behavior that goes against our principles.