Someone said, setting boundaries is not the problem, but that willingness and strength to accept the boundaries of others is the problem. It feels so good to set your own boundaries and not allow anybody to express, but when you find yourself in a position where the people that are also close to you set their boundaries, will you be happy to get to that boundary?
It's what you ask yourself, when setting a boundary and you want to bridge it, will you also be happy when other parts are so rigid on you? So life is just about doing what works for you always, so you might not know what is best for you.
Only the others show you the true side, so it is also good, it's good to set boundaries and set your standards. But also know that your standard can still chase away many people. Nobody wants you to set your standard that doesn't favour them. Once it doesn't favour them, they will leave you.
Most of the time, we think that setting standards will make people love us, appreciate us and see us as valuable, but we still forget the fact that many people will still resent us for setting standards that do not favour them and they might leave us. And if we don't do that, we might feel that we are doing the wrong thing.
We are doing the best thing just for ourselves. But in all, just remember that when you begin to set standards, know that you are setting a standard for yourself and not for others to love you. Standard is just for your benefit and not for the benefit of others.
You have to prepare your mind to be willing to take any resentment or any reaction from the people around you. You have to be willing to take any resentment or any reaction from the people around you.
Those around you, when you set a standard, because they might not be positive, most of them, mostly, will be negative and you must be willing to undo it with care.
