So apparently, there are two kinds of people in this world. There are those who believe that everyone is looking at them, for whatever reason. And then, there are those who feel like no one sees them. Who you are determines how you get to behave in public and the kind of image you get to portray. If you believe that you constantly have eyes on you, for whatever reason, it will definitely affect the way you do things.
And for those who feel like they’re not seen? Well, it can be really hard to get over such feelings. Because while everyone can’t be looking at you everywhere you go, you will definitely be noticed. No one is invisible, but I know that sometimes, it can feel that way.
When it comes to those who always feel like the eyes of the entire world are on them, they are of two kinds; the paranoid ones who think everyone else is trying to drag them down. And the arrogant ones who think everyone else is worshipping them. Either of these people is never fun to be with, and if you spend even a few hours with them, your mental health go tell you!
Those who are paranoid are people who are literally scared of public eye. I don’t mean introverts here, because introverts are not scared of being seen. They don’t just have the strength to deal with the hassle that comes with being seen. However, these paranoid ones believe that everyone is out to get them. They take personal security to the very next level.
Back when I was in school, I knew someone who said he couldn’t buy food outside because he was scared of getting poisoned. Normal people prefer not to buy food outside because they don’t trust the cooking processes of the cooks, they don’t trust the hygiene, and they don’t trust the ingredients. By cooking their own meals, they have total control over what goes into their bodies. However, this friend of mine is scared that buying food outside would open him up to attacks on his life.
This same guy also told me that he refused to buy a generator, even though he could afford it. His reason was that only big boys bought generators and once people saw that he owned a generator, they would think he’s rich and come rob him. His home is always dark, even when there is light. Anything at all that might make him have an easier life, he avoids it like a plague.
Personally, I don’t know the guy’s background, or why he was so paranoid about his surroundings. I’m sure there would be a good backstory that explains all this, but I’m not privy to that information and now that I don’t live there anymore, I don’t think I will ever find out. So far, I’m only pitying the woman the guy would get married to and the kids they would have. Does this mean that he wouldn’t buy cars and give his kids the best life he can simply because he’s scared that people would come for them?
The other people I want to talk about are the arrogant ones who think that everyone is worshipping them. These ones have this celebrity mentality, they always feel like they’re the center of attraction but they don’t even have the charisma to command such a presence. They expect everyone to keep quiet when they speak, but every time they only say things about themselves.
They’re the ones that always carry their shoulders when walking about. They love to show off, and they can take it personally if you refuse to acknowledge their doings. Normally, these guys don’t do much, but they sure tend to exaggerate on their achievements. Anything they can to boost their image. Sadly, many people can always see through their bullshit. And because they want no problem, they keep their opinions to themselves while the arrogant peeps keep acting out.
Spending time with such people will drain you emotionally because you’ll spend hours listening to them talk about themselves in different ways. They’re pretty self-centered and anything that will not improve their image will be placed on the back burner. They’re the kind of people who are willing to run into debt simply to keep up the façade. It’s crazy.
All in all, there is no good one. Being paranoid or being arrogant doesn’t work for me at all. In truth, no one cares about you. Or let me rephrase, only your friends and family care about you. Everyone is preoccupied with solving their own personal problems to just dump everything they’re doing and start following your life. Even your brothers and sisters won’t be keeping 24/7 tabs on you because they also have a life to live. You’re not that important!
Maybe if people will accept this, they’ll lose the feeling and try to be more social. This does not mean that people shouldn’t use their intuition, or they shouldn’t embrace their achievements. By all means, do what works for you. But isolating yourself from society would not be the best way to go at all.
