In one way or another I have learned that we can avoid misunderstandings, falling badly and being perceived as unpleasant and hateful people, if we say things in a correct, polite, pleasant, prudent or tactful way, in fact in my country there is a phrase that is used a lot and it is "it is not what you say, it is how you say it" and it is something totally true.

Many times I have been called hateful and it is true, first because I have been mentioned how hateful or unpleasant I am when I respond in some ways and others because I have received that treatment from some people and I have seen myself reflected in them and this has motivated me to change that in me.

Now, supposing that some friends, in some attempt to introduce me to someone with whom they consider I could get along well and have a relationship and they organize a date and this person manifests in the middle of the conversations that usually occur on a date that he does not like coffee, it would be something respectable, because for many years of my life I do not drink coffee.

But, if at the beginning of this topic, my date becomes, let's say, unfriendly, to the extreme of saying that he does not like coffee and that its smell for him is the worst thing in the world, two things could happen, one that I will laugh and let the date end and not come back to see him, this above all because he has not been tactful, one with tact can politely, with respect and even in a very intelligent way, send a person to hell and obtain as a result that he gets excited and enjoys the trip.

Now the second thing that could happen would be that if he would tell me or manifest his point of view in a gentle way and with delicacy, I would tell him the story of how I am now a coffee lover, I defend it to the hilt, besides always looking for the best brands of coffee to have at home, it is more than being someone nice and who knows how to raise the situation with tact and respect, I would even encourage him to have a challenge in which he would drink coffee with me, if we had a date again to make him fall in love with coffee.

In the same way, I am convinced that all human beings have the right to think differently, it is part of the richness of this planet, but also must prevail respect, tolerance and even empathy for those who think differently, of course all this with its limits, there are issues with which I still do not agree, or rather I do not agree with the way they want to say that impose, because with the theme of political correctness, I think that many issues that were good before are now seen as bad and vice versa, but it is a topic for community.

Even though I was not a coffee lover, I had pleasant dates with people who love coffee and it was never a problem, because I respected their love and they respected the fact that I did not like it and on the occasions that I drank it in their company it was because I was cold and they suggested me to drink it to warm up or because they asked me in a very good way and thinking about it I could do the same with someone who does not like coffee.

Finally, although when I did not drink coffee, I always appreciated its aroma as something very pleasant. If someone told me such nonsense as that the smell of coffee is terrible, I could give them two kinds of treatment, as I mentioned, depending on how they put it. Thus I bid farewell to my participation in STB #62.