Years have counted on and still keep counting on. We feel we are getting older at some point and sometimes we also feel we are still much younger. When we see some of your friends getting married and having children, you think you are still young for that. And when you see some of them kick the buck you realize you are already aging gradually. In all, what matters is the fact that we all have different lives to live.
There was a time I was in a conversation with a close friend of mine. We have a long gist about life, reminiscing our past and also thinking about our plans for the future, part of our discussion diverted to having a woman in one's life. He said we are old enough to have one. He told me about his experiences with ladies and how much he has been working on it. I was happy for him.
On my end, when I was asked about mine, I smiled childishly and told him I never had any, and I still don't have plans to have one. He said I might be matched with a lady if care is not taken. We smiled. Then on a serious note, he said something I later had to ponder about.
He told me that the more I keep progressing in life, the fewer chances I have to choose my ideal woman. I never took that word seriously not until I began to think about it.
For real, I have missed out on a lot of chances to select a choice of woman I wanted. An example when I was in secondary school, I had access to a lot of my classmates and school colleagues then, some of which I liked, but there was nothing I could do about that. We were still students.
Advanced level in the higher institution, I met with a lot of women, saw some that were exactly my choice, saw some that were close to, and some that were even way beyond. I had the opportunity then, but I did nothing. I know of many that got married to each other while we were still in school and some even got married after convocation. The chance came and I lost it.
I went to the nysc camp, and I met with another population of ladies again. Another opportunity to make things right, throughout the camp, and even during my service year I didn't take any step. I lost that opportunity once again.
Come to think of it, the chance of encountering a huge number of people keeps reducing. Now I am working at home, most times I am home or on the farm working. The only chance I have meeting with people is when I travel, and that's a low chance, or when I attend ceremonies and gatherings, which is also low.
I should have taken my relationship life more seriously then. Who knows, maybe I might have gotten my ideal woman by now.
Now the pressure is increasing. I have been asked several times if I have a girlfriend I want to introduce to them, but my answer remains NO, do I have a fiancé? NO! Don't you have plans for Marriage? I have.
I knew I already lost my chances, I never took it seriously back then, but I had the belief that when the right time came I would find one.
