"Sometimes not getting what you want can be a stroke of luck".
I have heard this phrase from my mother on some occasion, when something happened that we would not have expected but later, with enough distance that gives us the time to see and understand things better, you realize that in the end it had to be well, less bad.
I say thank goodness because many times we make plans, we set ourselves goals and we impose ourselves goals, almost inflexibly. We think we know what we want and we go for it, but do we really know what we want?
What we want, it can be... although in fact it is not so easy to know well. Throughout the days and years we accumulate desires, we discard some and achieve others while new ones always arise. We are thus building the life that we supposedly want. Endless wishes.
But are all these wishes and goals what really suits us? Are those he best we can choose and do? Are there other options? How do we know? John Lennon already said: "Life is what happens to you while you make plans". And so it seems to happen.
We can't control everything, sometimes we can't control anything, really. We feel that events surprise us, dislodge us and take us where they want and we are dragged along without knowing how the situation will end. We have all seen each other at times like this. That uncertainty gives some fear, losing direction and even more letting go of the reins.
Life surprises me and changes all my plans, it happens to me very frequently and for years it seems that it is a cluster of these ups and downs... I could give examples, quite a few.
And for example, it has happened to me recently with the change of house. Definitely wanting for an area, realizing that it was becoming difficult, that everything seemed to be against it. Well, I decided to break the plan and be flexible, nothing happens, let's flow with the present... I change the search area and find one, I get excited and in a few moments I already consider it the perfect one, I'm sure this is it. Everything is underway, the whole process, it is almost ours.
But suddenly strange events begin to occur, strange behaviors, excuses and lies, desperate expectations, anger, lack of education and deception. It can't be, everything has gone to waste. You discover that people act in very bad faith for money, but fortunately we get that part of our money back and again, we are almost at the starting point, we are with nothing and not knowing what to do.
Our deadlines are running out and there is only one thing to do: go on and on, start over and not stop until the end, there will always be a solution.
And there certainly is, new visits were organized, many in a short time, almost in extremis. We only had one more day left to see others but the last one on the penultimate day... could it be this one?
I had almost forgotten the details but something inside said yes, this was it. Maybe intuition? I don't know. It was necessary to act quickly even with the fear in the body due to the previous failed experience. Now it was necessary to see if, this time, the process would go well. We didn't have much more time or more ideas...they were already bad dates around summer.
But the miracle happened or perhaps fate separated us from the one that was not. Had we rushed or made a mistake with the choice without knowing it? Apparently you had to wait for the right moment, everything comes.
Well, what seemed at first the perfection that we had created in our heads days later was no longer, our opinion also changed suddenly. Luckily we didn't buy the first one, now I understand, we might have had some problems and on top of that he didn't have other things that this new house does have. Now comparing a posteriori I feel thankful indeed.
Of course, those strange days were difficult, full of nerves and many calls, also of tears. But that bad moment turned into a blessing. Despite what it seemed then, now I realize that I really have been lucky.
We got not what we wanted but what was best for us for some reason... who knows.
Sometimes you have to open your mind and row to where the present time takes you and God or the universe will take care of blowing in your favor even if you get angry at first. Then you know that you will end up giving thanks in situations like this where "not getting what you want is a stroke of luck." Thanks.
The photo is mine. An evocative sight, some black clouds that give the impression that they are going to cover everything, that the day will be dark, but suddenly the sun rises and its light makes its way. When we least expected it, it enlightens us again and gives us hope in a new day.
Thanks for reading! Have a lucky day.
The text is mine and the photo too ©Duvinca
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