Suffering doesn't improve us as a better person! Yeah, it may sound totally opposite to what we believe and learned so far. But it's the hard truth. Suffering can make us learn many life lessons, it can

Continuing to process a moment of self-abuse

Sharing self-forgiveness on self-abuse

Cross-posted from Day 72- Stopping the People-Pleaser Character The other day as I was preparing to go over to an acquaintance's house, something arose within me that told me unequivocally to "STOP!

Cross-posted from Day 71- Exploring Self-Responsibility I have noticed a tendency within me to want to cover all bases in terms of my self-development so that I don’t have to have uncomfortable interactions

Who or What is Behind Carelessness?

} From Day 68- Why is Nobody Helping Me?A thought came up the other day that ‘I am not getting the feedback I need/deserve from other Destonians’. I have been participating on the forum for 9 years. When

} From Day 67- Redefining and Living Apathy (A-Path-I-See) The process I used to explore this word can be found here: Self-Allocation For me, I can remember developing a certain sense of apathy in my childhood

Process support. When doing self-forgiveness, don't feel shame or guilt. It is a tool to transcend the mind, not an indictment. For support, visit the forum: forum.desteni.org Desteni DIP Lite - FREE online

Copied from Day 62- Fearing Sleeping Today there was a moment where I could see that what I was on my way to do wasn't what was best for me, but I continued on to do the thing I had set out to do anyway.

it’s gotten to the point where i’m actually sabotaging myself. i forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to sabotage myself i forgive myself that i’ve not allowed myself to not realize that sabotaging

as i come out of a depressive state, i am presented with opportunities to reconnect with people-at-large. as my psychiatrist mentioned, there will be times when i retreat back into depression and it’s

Something I have noticed within myself is a tendency to want to implement changes from the perspective of mind-over-matter rather than making decisions within the moment. There is something about control

It's one of those elusive things in life. It's one thing to forgive yourself for what you did, and another to forgive yourself for what you didn't. What about forgiving yourself for the ways you hurt others,

At times parenthood means sleepless nights, irregular sleep patterns, and being pushed to the brink of exhaustion. You'll feel tired cause you are tired and really need to take it easy. But there are other

There was an opportunity after work where I had a moment to myself and instead of using that time to move myself in a way that was best for me, I instead moved myself in a way that I believed would please

So it seems like I am still participating within the self-sabotage pattern identified in this post. This warrants another look at the pattern. I forgive myself for continuing to deny myself self-expression

Imagine a world where you have to pay interest on the money you borrow to buy the things you require. And that the life you are living isn’t even the one you want. Thus is the predicament of modern living:

Self – forgiveness – silence – the word silence I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to fear silence because I am expecting silence to be broken by noise and backchats or voices in

I experienced a moment where I had an opportunity to express myself in a really cool way. I didn’t follow through so now I am dealing with sadness. I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to