Have you ever spent hours worrying and gossiping about someone with a friend? And all you talk about is how mean and bad the person actually is.
Well, I can't tell you how many times I have gossiped and I certainly know that you've spoken some bad words about people that probably have treated you badly.
But are you aware that you might be giving your power away without realizing it?
Every time our lives spiral out of control, a loss of personal power is frequently to blame. In order to feel more in control of your life, you must first recognize the situations in which you are surrendering control.
Here are seven dumb things you do that give away your power without you realizing it.
Trust me when I say that this is really dumb. Spending hours complaining and whining about people’s behavior or attitude towards you is a green light that, indeed, you have given your power away. And the worst of it all is that you spend meaningful time gossiping about it with your friends and still carry the mental image of what happened to you home. It’s crazy.
Do you constantly complain about everything in your life, as if you are waiting for someone to intervene and save you? This may indicate a victim mentality or the conviction that someone else should carry the weight of your burdens. Things indeed happen that we do not have control over, but if you find yourself saying “Why me?” quite often, it is a sign that you have surrendered your power to external factors rather than seeking ways to change your situation.
This one is pretty obvious. If you lack the capacity to forgive someone, then that person has control over your emotions, and if someone has control over your emotions, then it invariably means that the person has power over you. The mere thought of that person is enough to ruin your entire day.
Who’s actually in charge of your life? If that answer is anyone other than you, you are giving away your power. If you keep on altering your goals just because others are not comfortable with them, then I bet you that your life will be miserable before you know it.
Working hard isn’t a bad thing. But, if you are working hard to prove your family or friends wrong, then what you’re doing is doing eye service. Whatever you do should be for your well-being. Every other thing is secondary.
Anytime you refuse to speak up when something isn’t right, fair, or just, you gradually erode your self-worth. And by continuing with this attitude, you eventually lose your power.
It is important to know that the biggest form of powerlessness is when you are aware of what you are capable of doing but you’re not doing it. You know deep within you that you can be more, but you consistently choose to be mediocre because you’re safe. You are giving your power away.
Do any of the aforementioned situations reflect who you are? Being confident in who you are and the decisions you make, regardless of the people you are surrounded by and the situation you are in, is the key to maintaining your power.
