Human nature is quite fascinating to observe and interact with, and one of the things I keep seeing is how people self-sabotage in attempt to get some kind of recognition. They have desires they want to fulfill, but they go about filling them in ways that don't work. These days, it is often by trying to create drama for attention, because they have bought into the idea that "any publicity, is good publicity".
It is not.
At least for the majority of us.
For instance, there have been several people on this blockchain that have wanted to be successful, to be acknowledged for their thoughts, voted on their content, supported for contributions. There is nothing wrong with that! However, the way they go about it runs counter to getting what they want and instead, does the exact opposite, as those they need in order to get votes for example, stop listening to what the person has to say, because what they says doesn't contribute to improving the experience of the audience.
So they shout louder.
Or get more bitter.
As said, there have been quite a few of these cases over the years and despite them professing how intelligent they are, or how valuable the information they give is, I question both positions, because they are connected.
Some people think that IQ is required to be intelligent, but that is not the case, because intelligence comes in various forms. No matter how smart a person is, if they can't get anyone to listen to what they have to say, it is useless - unless they don't need anyone with which to collaborate in order to meet their needs, and can do it all themselves. As self-sufficiency is highly unlikely, they need to be able to translate their thoughts into something that is consumable by those they need to meet their needs and if a high IQ person can't do this, what they are missing is communication intelligence.
If you can't say it simply, you don't understand it well enough.
But for a lot of people, they seem to think that complication makes them seem intelligent, big words, hidden meanings, allusion. Yet, as counterintuitive as it might be, this just makes them look foolish. Then, a lot of the people of which I am talking about think themselves so intelligent that they are able to hide their true meanings and feelings without being noticed, but I will let you in on a little secret, even in text, people leak their desires.
The more they speak, the more they leak.
When there is a conflict between what they are speaking and what they are leaking, it is what they are leaking that shines through. It is equivalent to uncontrollable micro-expressions that tell when a person doesn't believe in what they are saying, because it doesn't match with what they are doing.
It really is disappointing at times, but we are each responsible for the decisions we make and have to live with the consequences of our actions. I know of several accounts that have had the potential to grow, yet their behavior has led them to stall instead. They desire recognition for their contributions, but what they contribute is of very low value, at least in the form it comes in. But, they aren't willing to change, because they see themselves as so intelligent, that it is up to everyone else to change around them and "catch up" with the program.
There is a funny conflict between intelligent people, because while they might all be mentally capable, it is the other skills that make them able to use their intelligence. And, those who realize that they are unable to do all of the things they want to do alone, they are the ones who tend to develop other facets, like communication skills, to facilitate their ideas.
Others however, choose to be stubborn, choose to remain unchanging. And often, this actually leads them to becoming blind, not observing their environment well, not being able to identify opportunity, or where they might be heading down the wrong path. They see everyone else as fools, and themselves as the shining beacon of intelligent life, while they leak all their desires and misery, they frustration and bitterness to the world.
Until people stop listening completely.
And of course, it is never their fault people have stopped listening, the blame is on the audience, as the audience is not smart enough to comprehend, not intelligent enough to decipher all the amazing things they have to say.
I used to give time to these people, to try and help them, but they are vampires, stealing time and energy that is wasted, because it will lead nowhere, they will continue on doing what they do, believing they are right, even though the results they crave, are far out of their reach. Often, this leads them to getting more frustrated at not having their voice heard, shouting louder, leaking evermore of themselves, showing that what they say, they don't believe and that as lofty as they raise themselves, their desires are base, just like everyone else.
Inauthentic.
I think this is what they could be labelled. And in a social environment, people who are recognizably inauthentic, don't build the trust with others they need in order to cooperate and collaborate to create something together. They become prisoners of deserted islands, chained by their own behavior.
They own the island, but there is nothing there they want.
Taraz
[ Gen1: Hive ]
