To become more attractive as a man, you must first understand what makes a woman attracted to you in the first place.
At the most basic level, women are attracted to men who can successfully protect, provide, and procreate.
In other words, subconsciously, women are attracted to men who can take care of them and their children.
That’s it…
Anything you can think of falls under this umbrella.
There have been several great answers to this question that tackle the surface level issues surrounding attraction such as your appearance, vocal tonality, eye contact etc.
So to help you become the most attractive man possible, I’m going to take a different approach.
Instead of sharing specific ways to look or act better, I’m going to share the 5 lessons that you must learn about women and dating to succeed at any relationship.
These lessons would have saved me years of heartbreak and loss if I’d learned them sooner and, if you’re willing to internalize them and put them into action, I promise they will change your dating life forever.
Enjoy
(Note: these lessons were pulled from a much larger mega guide I wrote titled the 2)
Lesson 1: The #1 Myth About What Women Really Want Debunked
Men often think they can’t have the women they want because they don’t have enough money or good enough looks.
Let’s be real – money and good looks will get the woman’s attention, but that is all. It’s like a nice billboard advertisement it gets your attention but it doesn’t necessarily mean you’ll buy the product. The media has done a great job at making you believe in the erroneous assumption that money and six pack abs is the path to get your dream girl.
When you use money to take a woman out to nice dinners and to buy her gifts too early in the relationship, the woman will begin to think the man is trying to BUY her affection. Women see this as manipulation… and a LACK OF CONFIDENCE. Both of these are instant attraction killers. The woman may still answer your calls and let you take her out, but that is simply because she enjoys free stuff.
And who doesn’t?! Think about it.
You take this woman out and buy her stuff. You take her to a nice dinner. And then she heads home and meets the guy she really wants to be with. This guy does nothing for her except hang out, have fun with her and build sexual tension yet he is the one taking her home while the other guy just dropped $150+ in one night on a date that lasted 1.5 hours.
After a certain point, money is meaningless. It ceases to be the goal. The game is what counts. – Aristotle Onassis
Women want men who have the confidence to know that he can have a good time with her without pulling out his wallet for everything. Very few men know this, and the rich guy who worked his tail off for the sole purpose of attracting women through power cannot even comprehend this fact. If you spend too much money on a woman or do too many favors for her, you are subtly telling her that your pocketbook is ALL YOU HAVE TO OFFER.
And if she actually likes this then my advice to men is: RUN!
Personality is the key to being good with women and dating. It’s organic, it’s natural, and it’s who you are.
Deep down, women are attracted to your personality more-so than any other trait of a man. When you build up your personality you simultaneously increase your attractiveness.