Hello beautiful Hivers,am here again,but first of all,I want to say thank you for taking out time from your busy schedule to go through my posts.
Well, today I want to hit reality more on the head. Alot of us are in various relationships or the other. some are in an open relationship, some are in serious relationship leading to marriage, some are in same sex relationship,etc,so am not here to condemn anyone, rather i am here today to enlighten us on some things we overlook or underate, which in turn comes back to hurt us or even break us up. Pastor Chris of Christ Embassy church will always say "WHAT YOU CANNOT CHANGE IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP,YOU CANNOT CHANGE IN MARRIAGE".
Many a time,we say don't worry,he will change, don't worry she will change,but guess what,that's a huge lie because you might not even have that patience to be there when he or she changes or tries to change,thereby leading to malice,fight or even divorce.
Alot of times we go into a new relationship without evaluating the broken one,you never sat down to ask yourself what went wrong or were did he or she go wrong.
Evaluate your strength, weakness, opportunity and threat,if all these are evaluated,it helps you know what you want,who you are, your self worth,etc.
Alot of times we go into unwanted relationships just because Tom has a relationship,Dick has a relationship, therefore I should be in one, typical NO,you don't have to join the bandwagon,else what happened to them is certainly waiting to happen to you in front.
DISCUSS EVERYTHING
In a relationship,it is paramount you both discuss anything and everything,the saying LOVE IS BLIND is a very wrong statement because it's a matter of the heart.
Rather, you as the individual decided to close your eyes to alot of things. Always talk about the future, your goals,things you want to achieve and where the relationship will eventually lead both of you.
Sex shouldn't be priority in any relationship, even before and after marriage. I know alot of us will frown at this statement,my reason is this,sex is always a beautiful thing and more satisfying when you do it with the right person (your wife or husband),this way,you do not have sin consciousness eating you up.
MARRIAGE
My marriage to my lovely wife was awesome because we were best of friends,we talked about basically everything. when I came back from France and she told me everything and I also did same,after that lengthy and sensitive dialogue,we agreed between ourselves to start a new life,not hiding anything from each other,we do not lock our phones at home now,we discuss each days outing,who asked me out, people I met on my way to work and this is vice versa. we have a new Baby now and our love is waxing stronger by the day,we help each other out in our house chores,we discuss our love making sessions,where and how to improve and satisfy each other better. Our trust for each other is beyond words, because when am out of town due to the nature of my job,I stay celibate till I return back to her because I vowed that my body will forever belong to her alone.
Always try to know where you stand in your partners life.
Note, never assume that he or she knows, always reassure each other as many times reasonable.
In as much as we are in a relationship,we all want to love and be loved in return.
In all I will leave you with this: LET LOVE LEAD.