One of the hardest truths to tell yourself about life is that not everyone will choose you, not everyone will want you, value you, or need you in their space. This is not because you are bad, but simply as a matter of choice. It feels sad sometimes when you see the people that you care about not reciprocating the energy, intentionality, and efforts. What you should understand is that rejection does not mean the end of life, rather it is a demand for redirection. If someone does not want you, do not force yourself on them, simply take a walk and do it with dignity. Some of the rejections that people get are blessings in disguise. When someone steps out of your life, they may just be pushing you towards better people and better opportunities. It take wisdom to know who wants you and who does not, and responding adequately.
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It is true that rejection can sting sometimes because it touches a very important part of your humanity. A lot of people feel that they need to be accepted, loved, and wanted. But trying to force yourself on people will be counterproductive because it can easily lead to disappointment, heartbreak, and self-doubt. Trust me, you cannot force someone into liking you, you will just end up hurting your emotions. When someone shows that they do not want you or are not interested in you, do not see it as a tragedy or end of the world, rather see it as clarity. That they said "no" to you does not mean that life itself has said no to you. In fact, their "no" can actually open the doors for better opportunities of "yes." Sometimes, certain people will have to leave your life for better people to come in.
Walking away with dignity when someone has shown that they are uninterested in you means that you have made conscious decisions not to shrink yourself to gain acceptance. You can apply this in various ways in your daily life. Like stop begging for attention, stop texting first to those who do not even remember to text you, stop explaining your worth, stop apologising for your attempts towards your dreams. You have to understand that love, partnership, and friendship are not a contention for relevance. You should not beg to be noticed or for recognition. If someone wants you in their life, you will not have to fight for it. In the same way, if someone does not want you in their life, you should not fight to keep yourself there. Know your worth.
The energy you waste trying to convince people to see you can be channelled towards improving yourself and your worth. There is a point you will get to and the people who once said no to you would begin to seek for your attention. You are not designed to run after people, but to connect with the people who know your worth without forcing it. The moment you stop forcing relationships, you will start to be at peace. Then you will make room for the people who care about you genuinely, who love you effortlessly, and shows up in your life. You should stay around the people who will match your energy, not those who will quench your energy.
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It is worthy to note that redirection is very powerful and potent. You will be surprised to discover that the same thing you once cried about yesterday are the things you are grateful for today. If people leave your life, then see it as they are not meant to be part of your life. Move on, and channel the energy towards building better relationships with others. You may not understand fully why someone you cared about left you, or why an acquaintance drifted, or why your supposed friend ignored you. But later, you may begin to see the reasons; you were actually saved from what would have drained your energy.
Always have in mind that your dignity is like a crown to you, so do not drop it in the pursuit of someone who does not care about you. Have respect for yourself and know when to step aside when people stop appreciating your presence. When someone closes the door of their heart to you, do not panic, do not force yourself, do not beg, just walk away with your dignity. While walking away, remind yourself that the rejection is not a loss but simply a redirection towards something that is better, more meaningful, and truer.
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