Hello friends of this community, I have spoken several times about fears, how to face them, how I have faced my social anxiety, public speaking and the confidence we have, and to develop self-confidence it is good to question the thoughts that arise in our minds, sometimes we say "Oh, I am very insecure", "I am incapable", "I am not good at this, I will not be able to", those thoughts only serve to feed our insecurity and paralyze us, that is, they are of no use, so we need to question ourselves. really.

It's an insecurity just because I haven't practiced enough yet, then you start having those more balanced thoughts and your inner narrative starts to change, but everyone who has self-confidence in some area started with something small, but they started, so you question their thoughts, you question those labels that you put on yourself like “Oh, I wasn't born for this”, “I hate it, it's not for me”, “I do it very badly”, before even trying it you are already sabotaging yourself and criticizing yourself, why? You may not be the best at it, but that does not mean that you cannot develop it, you have to seek your personal improvement, simply allow yourself to do it, as best as possible, calmly, lightly, there is a psychology investigation, which found that students' self-confidence in their academic abilities was strongly related to their actual performance, this means that students who believed in their ability to learn and perform their tasks had much more academic success.

So if you believe that you can, your results tend to follow that belief, now think of two ways to build your self-confidence from the inside out and from the outside in, from the inside out means working on your thoughts so that they help you feel more confident and to act as you would like and from the outside in, this is when, even if your thoughts and emotions do not accompany you, you act as if you already felt confident. And that action has an impact on what you think and what you feel internally, both paths are very important to develop self-confidence, you can start by nurturing thoughts “how am I capable of doing what I need” and if a challenge is presented to you and you feel insecure, think “calmly, I am able to face this”, “I have already faced more difficult things before”, “I have done things that I thought I could not do and I did them well”. This is a new opportunity, when you think, “I'm not good at this”, you can change your internal narrative for something more positive like “I can improve if I practice and I allow myself to do it”, you can even write these types of affirmations and place them in the news or put them on your wallpaper. Positive affirmations are a way to reprogram our thoughts.

Another very important point to build self-confidence is to accept and learn from your mistakes, much of the insecurity comes from fear, the fear of making mistakes, the fear of failure, the fear of not performing well, the rejection of not receiving approval and to build self-confidence, and you must go through mistakes, failures, rejections is part of the path. If today the fear of rejection or being criticized is paralyzing you, you need to face it little by little, realize that in the end it neither suits you nor comes to you, it may not be pleasant, but we can grow much more through these types of experiences, so allow yourself to live them, take care of your environment and the people around you. The people around you can boost our self-confidence or they can undermine it. Surely you have already gone through situations in which you wanted to do something and someone, a friend, a family member told you "what's up, that's not for you", "I don't see you doing that, you won't achieve it, it's very difficult" that external voice can lower your morale and if you already feel insecure in itself and you hear this, you might think "Well then I'm not going to give up anything."

So pay attention to the people around you, especially when you face challenges, avoid sharing many of your insecurities with people who discourage you, share your fears only with people who believe in you, sometimes even more than you believe in yourself, so if you have someone like that in your life, first of all, congratulations and second, value that person and keep them close, obviously it's not about having someone who tells you "yes you can fly", "throw away that cape and fly", no, I'm talking about someone with a blind vision of reality, it is about having someone who tells you “let's reflect” but “I believe in you”, “I have seen how hard you try”, “I believe you can achieve it and I am here to support you”, you can have someone like that or you yourself can be that someone for the people around you. Finally, I tell you that do not leave this publication wanting to conquer the world and do everything in all areas of your life, face all your fears, do not calm down, take a deep breath and think about what area of ​​your life needs special attention today to develop self-confidence and in that specific area, set realistic and measurable goals, smaller goals that allow you to advance little by little, we cannot face a great challenge in one go, that could be traumatic, but you can do it little by little and over time you will be able to do it. things that you never imagined before, I say this from my own experience, I never imagined that I would do what I am doing today and most importantly be the person I am today Thanks to self-confidence.