It is usually challenging to let go of people, especially when it is someone you love, even though they seem to be drawing you backwards.
I had this girl I met in my final year of secondary school, she was the perfect image of what I had always imagined my wife would be. My life had a turnaround when I met her. She is loyal and deceitful. I will spend the whole day and all night talking with her. Thinking about it now, I wonder if we used to sleep at all at night.
At some point, I realised my plans for the future were not forthcoming, and I had to end the relationship. She was older, and I felt I would just keep her waiting without knowing what the future may hold. The funny thing is, to date, I have yet to let her go, and this has held me back a lot. I have not had any serious relationship after her, and when I try, I will always compare the relationship with that which I have had with her. What I mostly say to myself is that she understands me more than anyone and is always able to keep me on track. What I failed to realise is that she is holding me back.
It is funny how people will say they maintain a friendship with their EX, still talking and seeing each other without any strings attached. I used to feel that way, too, not until recently. I think it is best not to know what is happening in their lives because those are the things that could draw you back. I have been stuck for too long, and I have made my decision to keep my distance, letting go of her and putting in serious effort into moving forward.
It is more difficult when it comes to family. I doubt if there will be anything that could make me let go of family. Yes, I can keep my distance when it becomes necessary, but to let go completely is what I cannot do, although there might be circumstances that could warrant it.
My very good friend will always have these quarrels with his immediate younger sister; they will both exchange terrible words with each other, raining insults and abuses. It is mostly as if they compete with each other, and once the other person is winning, he or she finds a way to demoralise the other person.
My friend is always affected the most, as are the other siblings; his other sisters are always behind the sister, leaving him feeling alone. They have stayed away from each other at different times without talking to each other, and when they start talking to each other again, it repeats itself. Even with this happening, I still don't advise letting go of your family; family is family and should be tolerated, I think. I always advise keeping his distance and setting boundaries. At some point in our lives, we might have no one but family, and it is important that we try to maintain this valuable relationship in our lives.
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