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Ever wondered why people are being pressured to marry, why society always sees an unmarried person as someone irresponsible and unserious with life and why they tend not to give some sort of responsibility to unmarried men, even in the church, there is always discrimination among the married ones you know you are more responsible and serious with life than a lot of the married ones. It is difficult to live in such a society when deep down you know the so-called married people around you, are irresponsible and usually ignore their responsibility leaving with God knows who.
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I have had serious pressure to marry in recent times, pressure from my parents, pressure from peers who are married, and even pressure from my partner. I understand how relevant it is to society and also to our parents to see us married and have kids before they leave, but life is not as easy as it seems. A friend of mine was seriously advising me on the need and importance of getting married, how marriage comes with a blessing and also how it is good for your parent to hold your child first among your siblings because it brings blessings and opens doors to you.
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i have recently being feeling a struggle pressure from my partner to getting married to her, how she is not getting any younger and needs to get married soon, with threats of leaving me for another person who might be ready to get married now, and since I am not willing to risk everything and try marriage with her now, she is also not willing to wait for a person like me, saying whenever I see or hear she is getting married I should not see it as though she does not love me or do not want to get married to me but simply because she cannot wait for me for whenever I feel its okay for me to get married, not knowing if she has a guarantee with me, not that after waiting for me for long and I still end up not getting married to her.
I cannot succumb to any pressure as it is, not from my parents, friends or even my partner's wish and traits of getting married. I have heard and seen stories of both marriages of happy endings and marriages that are trouble right from the start of the union, how they both complain bitterly daily about their spouses, how they can’t stand their spouse or how they’ve fallen out of love with their spouse so soon, marriages have ended on silly reasons that cannot stand weight. It is sometimes difficult to believe in marriage and if there exists something like marrying right. My friend will always complain about his marriage, how he felt pressured to marry by his partner, sometime he will ask if he made the right decision or it was a wrong decision, although I usually see his marriage as a very good example, since in numerous instances he will sing praises of his wife, how she did this and that and how she is not like other women.
Societal pressure to marry hurts the mental and emotional well-being of an individual, this may lead to stress, anxiety and even depression. An individual who is always pressured to get married may have his self-esteem and self-worth deteriorate.
In conclusion, marriage should not be a yardstick or a measurement of being responsible, this is a false measure of responsibility, the unmarried who are capable of leadership even in the church should be allowed their right of leadership, and family, friends and partners should stop resulting into pressuring the unmarried as it may affect their well-being.
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