Everyone has a perspective from which they see themselves, and sometimes the way others see them may be different, it is somethings possible that the idea people have about you is quite different from the ones people have of you, at the same time, it is possible to find two different ideas about you from different people because sometimes the way you act towards Mr A may be different from the way you act towards Mr B making them to have different ideas or perspective to your behavior or who your person really is. One, for instance, may see himself as someone very loving and charming, while others may see him through a different perspective or angle, and at the same time, a person may seem generous to person A, while person B may have had an encounter with him and thinks the opposite of him.
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People usually tell me how overly generous and cheerful I am, that giving is part of me, and there is nothing I can do about it. Even when I don't have much, I try to see that the next person or a person in need is cared for or gets what he or she wants. While people see me as generous, I also like to look at myself as a person with empathy rather than the generosity trait. I like to put myself in people's shoes and take their needs and wants as my own needs and wants, and that is why I do what I do, seeing myself as generous with my feelings rather than just a generous giver.
My friends see me as very shy and reserved; they consider me a quiet person, and sometimes they also say I'm a snub. It's accurate to say I'm a quiet person because I prefer listening more and talking less, and I usually don't tolerate being called a snub. Yes, I don't like talking too much because I sometimes get tired of speaking. When you see me talking a lot, it’s usually with someone I care about deeply or if the conversation is very important.
Usually, I am the quiet person in the room who laughs the loudest, smiles a lot, and says the least in group conversations. The moment I realised I hated talking was during my service year. I was assigned to a secondary school, where I was tasked with teaching Economics. I had five classes of over thirty students each, all of whom had to attend two double periods or three single periods every day, except on Wednesdays when we all went for our CDS. This was a hectic experience for me as I was always hungry after each class, even after eating before going to school. At that time, I was forced to speak for one and a half hours straight or forty-five minutes continuously. When I was with friends and didn't have to talk, talking was heavy for me, and I would rarely say anything, even when spoken to. The only people I respond to are my closest friends. Because of this, I was seen as a snub, and many people disliked me for it, seeing it as though I lacked interest in them rather than a lack of energy in me.
As much as your perspective towards yourself matters a lot, the perspective of others towards you also matters a lot. When two or three people call you out for a specific character or trait that you cannot see for yourself, it is a call for you to check closely and not to conclude by saying you know yourself better. People sometimes have the right perspective of you more than you know.
Thank you for reading. My name is@rishagamo, and this is my response to the Hive Learners weekly Featured Content Week 210 Episode 01: “OPINION MATTERS”.
