I am not really the type of person that immediately runs to people whenever I get good news, In fact, most of times, the first thing I do is celebrate quietly by myself, I don't know if anyone else is like that, but I have always been someone who likes to process things first before sharing them with other people, so when something good happens to me, whether it is big or small, I usually sit with it for a while and enjoy the moment privately.
Maybe I will smile to myself, yes I will thank God, I will fake a few minutes to let it sink in, after that, if I decide to share the news, who I tell first usually depends on what the news is about.
There is not really one fixed person, sometimes it is my partner, If it is something I know she would be excited about or something we have both been hoping for, then she is likely going to be one of the first people I tell, there is something nice about sharing good moments with someone who genuinely wants to see you win.
Other times, I call my aunt, she is one of the people closest to my heart, she is always been supportive, and there are certain conversations that just come naturally with her, some good news feels easier to share with her because I know she will be genuinely happy for me, then of course there is my mum, mothers have a special place when it comes to these things, there are certain achievements or milestones that automatically make me want to pick up my phone and call her, sometimes before I even finish explaining the news, she is already celebrating bigger than I am.
That's one thing I love my mom, they can be happier about your success than you are, so honestly, it really depends on what the news is all about, the nature of the news usually determines who hears it first.
Now, am I also the first person these people call when they have good news?Well, sometimes yes and sometimes no, and honestly, I don't really expect to always be the first, everybody has different relationships and different levels of closeness with the people around them, just because someone is my first call does not automatically mean I have to be theirs, life doesn't always work that way, of course, if it's someone very close to me and I discover that they deliberately share everything important with everybody else while leaving me out completely, I might feel a little disappointed.
Not angry.
Just surprised.
Because naturally, when you are close to someone, you expect a certain level of openness, but at the same time, I try not to take things too personally, people share news for different reasons.
Maybe they called someone else because that person was physically present.
Maybe they needed advice.
Maybe they were just excited and dialed the first number that came to mind, It doesn't always mean you're less important, i think one mistake people make is measuring relationships by who gets information first.
For me, what matters more is whether the person eventually wants to share those moments with me at all, at the end of the day, good news is meant to be really enjoyed.
Whether I celebrate it alone first or share it with my partner, call my aunt, or tell my mum, the important thing is that I am grateful for it, and seriously that is exactly how I try to approach it, how I enjoy the moment and appreciate the blessing, and share it with the people who genuinely care about seeing me happy.
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