Train a child in the way he should go, that when he grows, he shall not depart from it. For one to shape his or her child and give the child the upbringing the child needs, one must watch his or her child very closely. I am not really a fan of privacy. To date, I don’t understand why people keep some things private from certain sets of important individuals in their lives, for instance, a spouse having a secret or a private space from his or her partner, and worst of all, a child having his or her privacy.
Being someone who went through a boarding house, we literally do everything with a bunch of strangers that become family in the long run, you bath together, wash together, eat together and even sleep together, you have no private space to yourself, only your locker where you keep your provisional items and your box where you keep your clothes, we literally had no secrets between each other.
Growing up, my family lived in a two-room apartment sharing the same toilet and bathroom with seven to eight other families. We lived like we had no privacy between each other as a family and a community. Having my parents close really helped me so much to grow up to be a respectable man. People see me and immediately see a responsible man because my parent didn’t give me any privacy; they were always there to correct me when I was wrong and to guide me in my confused state. The open-door policy should as to the kid is already grown and matured and can differentiate between good and evil properly before the policy closes, this will help in increasing the child morality in a way since the child knows that he is always watched, even when this child leaves home for school, he will always remember that or feel like he or she is being watched by his or her parent, whenever he or she is tempted to do any wrong.
What you do as a parent to make them feel like they own their lives and you are not intruding in their private lives but only training them, is to make them understand that you trust them sometimes by looking the other way when they fall astray, not judging every decision they take unless they ask for your advice. A parent should always be free with their wards, that will make the ward always happy to bring up issues of concern to the parent, let your child know that you are open to any conversation and in so doing, you don’t need to invade in your child’s live before you know what is really going on with your child, even without asking, the child will come to you to tell you everything.
Parents should understand that they are not always with their kids or cannot watch their kids 24 hours a day. When a parent is too strict with a child, you find out that the child will start hiding his or her real self from the parent. What the parent should do, rather than being strict with the child, is to make the child their friend, go close to the child and let the child know that you are open to any and every conversation with him or her.
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