Cuaima or rattlesnake is a Venezuelan term that has a derogatory nuance, used to qualify and describe women who are jealous, obsessive, possessive and controlling of their partners.
It also has the connotation of a person insatiable for fights or arguments who finds a kind of pleasure in humiliating his partner. Although this term could well apply to many men who are like that. Because it must be clear that there are men who are annoying and quite a lot.
I have friends who are terribly jealous and I had a boyfriend who's level of jealousy was God 馃檮.
In recent days a friend who I will call Dorotea, told me that she opened WhatsApp to the boyfriend from her laptop, because she suspected that the boyfriend was unfaithful. She was like that for a while until the guy realized it and broke up with her.
The most important thing is that she was right: Nemesio (not his name either), was indeed cheating on her; but he did not forgive her for invading his privacy in that way. Dorotea cried and begged him to forgive her... Really! But he wouldn't.
I don't know if it was the perfect excuse to break up with her, because she has always been a jealous snake. The truth is that she is still begging him to forgive her.... Really? I mean, he fails you, he rides you ragged, and you beg for forgiveness?
She certainly didn't act right either, because she committed that violation of privacy. I think the best thing would have been for her to talk to him, but she always refused to do that. She was afraid of what he might respond 馃槖.
Types of rattlesnake
If her boyfriend happens to look at a woman who passes him on the side, even the earth begins to tremble. She will not complain to him in public because she is too much of a lady for that. The look will suffice for now. But as soon as they are alone, this woman's fury will be unleashed on that poor son of God, just for having looked where he didn't have permission 馃槀.
This type of woman keeps a closer eye on the man than the FBI. She does everything without his knowledge. She borrows cars from her friends to chase him to see if it is true that he is going to work or to visit his mother on Sunday, as he told her. She is one of those who thinks that he who seeks, finds.
This is the typical one who gets in on the cheap; the kind that says: "oh my love, lend me your cell phone to make a call, I'm out of battery".
It can also be that when they are in their best moments of happiness, she asks him to change the profile picture of their networks and put one of the two of them, she changes the ringtone of her call so that he answers it immediately.
She knows what time he goes out or comes in, and alas daddy if he takes a little longer than she has calculated for him. She controls what he wears and who he talks to. She may even know exactly what time he goes to the bathroom.
This is the most illogical and absurd. The one with severe mental problems, because strangely enough, she believes that her boyfriend is God's gift to women, when in reality he is the reincarnation of the hunchback of Notre Dame.
You can't greet him because she immediately gets upset and complains. Well, if you have to pass for rude, it is preferable to wake up that beast.
This is also dangerous. She denies that she is a jealous snake. It is relaxed and calm. But everything is accumulating. If he greets another woman very effusively, if he chats with the ex (and there really is nothing between him and his ex).
She doesn't say swim doesn't complain, but that time bomb could explode at any moment and when that happens, it will bring up moments that only she remembers and you ... what?
Learn to identify and deal with or avoid them. The problem they have is an absolute lack of self-esteem. Let's be clear. You guys met and are sharing. Neither she bought you, nor you her. Nobody owns anybody. They are together to grow, to have a good time, to be happy, to complement each other. But that chase, that fight over everything, avoid it. It is my advice.
Tell us which of them you have come across. You dare?
Cuaima es un t茅rmino venezolano que tiene un matiz despectivo, usado para calificar y describir a las mujeres celosas, obsesivas, posesivas y controladoras de su pareja.
Tambi茅n tiene la connotaci贸n de una persona insaciable de peleas o discusiones que encuentra una especie de placer en humillar a su pareja. Aunque este t茅rmino bien podr铆a aplicarse a muchos hombres que son as铆. Porque hay que tener claro que hay hombres que son molestos y bastante.
Tengo amigas que son terriblemente celosas y tuve un novio que su nivel de celos era: Dios 馃檮.
En d铆as pasados una amiga a quien llamar茅 Dorotea, me dijo que le abri贸 el WhatsApp al novio desde la laptop de ella, porque sospechaba que el novio le era infiel. As铆 estuvo por un tiempo hasta que el tipo se dio cuenta y termin贸 con ella.
Lo cumbre es que ella ten铆a raz贸n: Nemesio (tampoco es su nombre), s铆 le estaba montando cachos; pero 茅l no le perdon贸 que ella invadiese su privacidad de esa manera. Dorotea le llor贸 y le suplic贸 que la perdonara... 隆en serio! Pero 茅l no quiso.
No s茅 si fue la excusa perfecta para acabar con ella, porque ella siempre ha sido una culebra celosa. Lo cierto es que ella todav铆a le est谩 rogando que la perdone... 驴en serio? O sea, 茅l te falla, te monta cachos y t煤 le pides perd贸n?
Ciertamente ella tampoco actu贸 bien, porque cometi贸 esa violaci贸n de privacidad. Creo que lo mejor habr铆a sido que hablase con 茅l, pero ella siempre se neg贸 a hacerlo. Ten铆a miedo de lo que 茅l pudiese responder 馃槖.
Tipos de cuaima
Si su novio por casualidad mira a una mujer que le pase por un lado, hasta la tierra comienza a temblar. Ella no le va a reclamar en p煤blico porque es demasiado dama para eso. Con la mirada bastar谩 por ahora. Pero apenas est茅n a solas, se desatar谩 la furia de esta mujer sobre ese pobre hijo de Dios, solo por haber mirado donde no ten铆a permiso 馃槀
Este tipo de mujer vigila m谩s al hombre que el FBI. Hace de todo sin que 茅l se de por enterado. Pide prestado carros a las amigas para perseguirlo a ver si es verdad que va al trabajo o a visitar a su mam谩 el domingo, como le dijo. Es de las que piensa que quien busca, encuentra.
Esta es la t铆pica que se mete por lo bajito; de las que dice: "ay mi amor, pr茅stame tu celular para hacer una llamada, que me qued茅 sin bater铆a".
Puede ser tambi茅n que cuando est谩n en sus mejores momentos de felicidad, le pide que cambie la foto del perfil de sus redes y que ponga una de ellos dos, le cambia el tono de la llamada de ella para que 茅l la atienda de inmediato.
Sabe a qu茅 hora 茅l sale o entra y ay pap谩 si se tarda un poco m谩s de lo que ella le tiene calculado. Le controla la ropa que se pondr谩 y con quienes habla. Hasta debe saber exactamente las horas que el sujeto va al ba帽o.
Esta es la m谩s il贸gica y absurda. La que tiene severos problemas mentales, porque por extra帽o que parezca, cree que su novio es el regalo de Dios para las mujeres, cuando en realidad es reencarnaci贸n de el jorobado de Notre Dame.
No puedes saludarlo porque ella en seguida se molesta y reclama. Pues si hay que pasar por maleducada, es preferible a despertar a esa bestia.
Esta tambi茅n es peligrosa. Ella niega que sea una culebra celosa. Es relajada y tranquila. Pero todo lo va acumulando. Si 茅l saluda muy efusivamente a otra mujer, si chatea con la ex (y de verdad no hay nada entre 茅l y su ex).
Ella no dice nadan no se queja, pero esa bomba de tiempo podr谩 estallar en cualquier momento y cuando eso pase, va a traer a colaci贸n momentos que solo ella recuerda y tu... 驴qu茅?
Aprende a identificarlas y a lidiar con ellas o a evitarlas. El problema que tienen, es una ausencia de autoestima absoluta. Vamos a estar claros. Ustedes se conocieron y est谩n compartiendo. Ni ella te compr贸 a t铆, ni t煤 a ella. Nadie es due帽o de nadie. Est谩n juntos para crecer, para pasarla bien, para ser felices, para complementarse. Pero esa persecuci贸n, esa peleadera por todo, ev铆tala. Es mi consejo.
Cu茅ntanos con cu谩les de ellas te has topado. 驴Te animas?