Everyone to his or her perspective on issues in life. This is because we are different and cannot reason the same way. While you hear from someone that this is the right way to do things, another would come up with something else, trying to go against it. One reason for this thinking is that we all come from different backgrounds and the way number 6 is to someone is different from another which looks like 9 to him or her, we speak or think based on what we have experienced in the past.
A relationship is something relatable because I believe many of us have entered into one, even if we haven't, we have seen or heard of those in it and how things are going with them. The notion that "Age is just a number" is a topic that is so rampant with everyone nowadays when it comes to love. Some would tell you, love covers all things. Another fellow will say, age is important in a relationship. I will be sharing two scenarios which I have seen happened around me before sharing my view on this prompt by the Hive Naija Community.
My Dad married my mom with 11 years difference. Their marriage life has been that of "friendships" because my dad never took that as an advantage to maltreat her in a whatsoever way. They were both living like friends till my mom's death. You know for some couples, the man might use that as an advantage to treat such a woman like, he is older than her, so whatever he says is the final. My dad would always seek her opinion even before doing anything as he believed that both are one and should be carried along in things relating to the family.
Another scenario was a couple who lived with us many years ago. I was so young then but I could understand how they lived and communicated. The woman is older than the man but she would always take that as an advantage to do whatever she likes because she believed the man wouldn't say anything. Every day, we would always hear a shout and scream where the man would beat her while she raises her voice at him, making the children sad seeing how the family was. This woman turned her children's back on their dad and there was no respect at all.
In this kind of situation, I could say the woman had no respect and love for her husband because she was older than him. This is what happens mostly with many people today. They want to act like a boss and dominate because they are older than their partner. To me, I don't see why there shouldn't be any respect irrespective of your age. As a lady, if I am older than my partner, it doesn't stop me from loving and respecting him because I will consider him the head of the house while I am there to support him no matter how things go.
Just like I said, every man to his or her thinking or perspective on things but I believe age is just a number as long as there is love, trust and smooth communication between both partners without taking advantage of maltreating the other person. No one needs to know if you are older than your partner or not, play the love together and be friends. This is how a relationship will blossom and flourish like a tree planted by the riverside.
