With each day that passes, I get to see more and more reason why getting into a relationship or making myself vulnerable enough to actually love someone and commit to them fully could be the last thing I do.
I have this friend who's currently getting ready to relocate to an entirely different state because of his relationship of five years that recently came to an end. These guys have been dating for the past five years, so almost every one of us here knows that they're together.
But according to this friend of mine, he and his girlfriend had been having issues since the beginning of the year, and he admits that in their five years of being together, they've had multiple breakups, but none of them has been as serious as this one. What hurts him even more is the fact that he feels she's now talking to other people and has moved on, so all hope of them coming back together is gone.
He didn't go into details about why they broke up but said they had had a minor misunderstanding, something that normally would have only taken a week of quarrels and they would be back together, but instead, his girlfriend had visited him at his place and told him that she no longer was interested in being with anyone. She wanted to be alone for the meantime and didn't want to see anyone.
But according to him, he feels she's lying because he overheard her over the phone later that day when she was flirting with a coworker (she had recently gotten a new job), and that hurt him deeply. And now, after making a few calls for the past couple of days, he has somehow been able to secure a job that comes with accommodation in a faraway state.
He told me that he initially had no plans to leave here, but the pain of everything and the rejection too (he has begged and apologized to her a couple of times) is too much for him to bear, so now he's living for a job that he's not excited about and doesn't even pay as much as his previous job did.
Listening to him talk and watching him go through the pain he currently is going through has just confirmed to me that maybe my decision on remaining single might just be the best one. I know there are good partners out there, but unless you have luck on your side, you have to go through a lot of the bad ones before you eventually see that good one.
And I don't know about you guys, but I don't think I'm ready yet to do all of that.
