There's a point we get to sometimes where we find ourselves thinking about if we're being good people or if people are just taking advantage of us. And depending on the answer we come to, we sometimes choose to change from good to bad or at least not be as nice as we used to be anymore.
Some weeks ago, a friend of mine had paid me a visit, and for some reason, he had made sure no one saw him coming into my place because he was trying to avoid one of my neighbors. When I asked him what the problem was, he had gone ahead to tell me a story that made me realize that I may have played a hand in why he was avoiding this person.
This friend of mine has a good job that pays well, and that kind of made him the go-to guy for whenever we (his closest friends) needed money for certain emergencies. We always made sure to pay him back before the due date because we all were always like that; we hated being in debt and always wanted to stand by our words.
The thing with making good money is that it speaks for itself. You smell real nice, you dress well, and all of a sudden people could tell that you might have some money with you. So when this neighbor of mine had asked me to please give him my friend's number, I had done that without thinking twice about it because this neighbor was an acquaintance of my friend, so I felt maybe they had a conversation to finalize or something like that, and I never asked what he required the number for.
Well, it turned out he had asked my friend for a loan, which my friend had given to him at the time, and he ended up not paying him back at the agreed time. But that wasn't the only issue, because according to my friend, my neighbor has been hitting him up ever since, asking him for money any chance he gets, and although my friend no longer gives him money, he now tries to dodge the guy any chance he gets because the last thing he wants is the guy seeing him in person and going back to begging him for money.
The moment he was done telling the story, I got pissed off about the whole thing and offered to go have a word with the neighbor, seeing how I was partially responsible for the whole thing, which he objected to.
According to him, that experience made him change his mind on helping people, and now all he does is say no whenever someone asks him for financial help.
