I was on the phone the other day with my dad, he had called to check up on me and I remember the first thing he had said was "Nawa for you ooo, if someone doesn't call you, you can't even call home to know how we're doing"...basically complaining about the fact that I rarely call home to check up on them.
Before that call, the last time I spoke to him was a month ago and he had been the one who called on that day too. Now I'm not saying that I'm proud of such a character, considering it's my family we talking about here and I should always try to keep in touch with them, I'm just trying to let you guys know how far I go when it comes to privacy because I really don't like people being in my business and can keep to myself all year if it meant me having that privacy.
So if you ask me, I feel like we should let everyone be as private as they want to be, but only if they're adults... Let me explain.
Some years back, sometime during my early twenties, I remember one afternoon, someone had sent me a text
while myself and my eldest brother was seeing a movie on my phone. So I had paused the movie and then stood up to go somewhere quiet to read the text but he had refused.
Apparently he wanted to read the text too because he had seen the name of the contact and it was a text from an opposite sex. I had refused, not because it was a bad text or anything like that, but because I felt like he didn't have the right to go through my phone, that would be him clearly violating my privacy and I made that clear to him.
But apparently, for some reason he felt like just because he was older than I was, that he was entitled to know whatever it was happening in my life. We ended up struggling and my dad had to intervene, read the text and handed my phone back to me.
Now if you ask me, I'm not in support of that, my brother invading my privacy, but I'm absolutely in support of parents doing it and that is because a lot of crazy things be happening in the lives of this little ones that we just don't know about, and probably would never find out about it unless they (the parents) do snoop around.
I feel like as a kid, your parents has to be in your business because you're a kid and still under their care. And I say that because I feel a lot of things can go wrong by giving a child too much privacy at that very young age.
So if you have to occasionally go through their phones and computers, go through their rooms and all that, then please do. They're your kids and their safety should be your number one priority as a parent or guardian.
So when it comes to the question on how private should you be, my answer is as much as you want to, as long as you're an adult.
