In today's world, we get to see and hear things that make us want to succumb to what's happening around us. It's funny how societal pressure is always around playing an invincible force influencing our lives, shaping our behavior in some kind of way, affecting our way of thinking. It's just everywhere even in our own homes, with peers, on social media even in church.
We get to face lots of pressure ranging from the world dictating how we should dress either to fashion, what's accepted by cultures, and religions it can be so overwhelming that one has to think before wearing clothes in order not to be judged by society at large. Let's not talk about being successful, you get to see people prying into your life to know how successful you are and some get to stigmatize you for not having a good job, for not attaining a higher education, and also for not being so wealthy.
The worst thing the people doing all this are not living well but always watching like hawks. Waiting for people to say yes, no, go ahead you are doing well using such to measure oneself worth, any negative word from society can bring about depression and sadness. Let's not forget what's making everyone change their body entirely just to look beautiful or accepted, while personal choices are valid, the intensity of societal pressure is becoming so much worse.
Have I ever succumbed to such pressures and how I got to bounce back so fast
I am not exempted from all this, after all, I am only human. I have experienced depression in some stages of my life I had to pull myself from people to restore my mental health. There is a particular friend I have in my department she's someone who knows everything about me, I will say best friend if I do such things now. We were always together, she usually talked in some kind of tone and teased me a lot (which I was used to already) but you see some people in my class were beefing her because she was into school politics, they would often tell me she's using me. I always wonder how, if it wasn't a healthy friendship I would have separated myself from her.
I ignored them, it came to a point where it became too much for me to handle. I distanced myself from her for a week and started moving with some set of students in the same class. They stopped gossiping and didn't even ask why I wasn't close with my friend anymore. During that week I got to see lots of things and hear about people moving about and claiming friendships that were way beyond what I could imagine (unhealthy friendships). The next week I went to my friend and we laughed about lots of things that was how the side talks all died down.
I did what they wanted, to break the friendship and bond between us they succeeded but they didn't win, with my sixth sense I got back with her again I never regretted it. She is a leader and more. She always told me they were jealous of her and I would be like it's a lie who's looking at you not knowing this world is just something else with different ways of thinking.
I also succumbed to societal pressure in the form of body shaming. I was not so skinny but people always referred me to as a skinny girl, especially in my home, whenever my elder bro came to the house, he always commented on my size saying that I was not growing, I was short and skinny, my mom compared me to others also.
At the beginning of my University days, I sought multivitamins to improve my eating habits hoping to gain weight. I took super appetite and it worked temporarily, but after a few weeks, I went back to my old shape. That was when I told myself that fatness was not for me, I had to understand my body and I dropped a lot in weight with just a little stress so no need to buy things that couldn't last. Whenever anyone calls me slim I accept it with my full chest and if any persists I ask the person to send me money and see if I won't get fat in just one day.
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