Welcome to my blog and another wonderful edition of the Hive Learners' featured post. As friends, siblings, and parents, all we want is to see our loved ones happy and smiling. Nothing does bring comfort to us other than knowing that our loved ones are safe and doing okay, but in the process of showing our loved ones care and attention we should have it at the back of our mind that our loved ones deserve some privacy, which means we have to cut down a little how we question their every move, and way about, that way they get to experience love, care, and attention with their private life intact. Love, care, and attention are something every individual craves, but when it goes beyond a particular limit, it becomes intrusion and annoying.
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There are some levels of care. I really don't see this as care but intrusion; whenever a friend of mine gets off the phone, his mom must ask who he was on the phone with. I don't see this as care but intrusion. So because you care, you just have to know who I am talking to, and my every phone call is monitored and I cannot be on the phone for long. There are some kinds of care that is very annoying.
Gone are the days where, all in the name of caring for a person, you have zero respect for their privacy. Today, while showing care, one must have at the back of their mind that the person they are showing care needs a little privacy. Those days, people who care about you want to know about your every move; if possible, they want to know your every move even before you make them. It is all sweet, but at a point it becomes intrusion, and not everyone can deal with intrusion. Some people react in a way that leaves you regretting ever showing care, but people fail to understand that there is a limit to everything, and once you go beyond that, it is no longer care but intrusion.
No doubt, for any relationship or friendship to thrive, parties involved must know their boundaries and not go beyond them. The importance of boundaries cannot be overemphasized; for me, in as much as I hate intrusion, I wouldn't want to be an intruder in another person's life as well. This is why I respect boundaries and try to stay within mine. All my loved ones know I care a lot and always want to see them happy and safe, but for the sake of boundaries and not to be labeled an intruder, I only ask about things I know I should, and whatever they feel comfortable sharing with me is fine. I respect boundaries and don't go about asking what they don't tell me.
I feel if they want me to know, they would tell me, and if they don't tell me, that simply means it is private, and I wouldn't go about asking questions and making them feel uncomfortable or make them feel like they cannot have a private life all because I care. You can care about a person and still let them enjoy some level of privacy; don't go all clingy on a person and call it care; at some point you become an intruder.
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