This sentence is one which is used by many players out there. Mainly, by men, but women use it too.
Being a person who believes solely in love and be loved, I see this as a normal thing. Age is actually just a number, but not when it comes to marriage.
I always believe that, so long as we have love, I love you and you love me, then everything will fall in place, irrespective of the fact that you are older than me. Age is always a number in the face of love.
A man can marry any good looking woman, irrespective of their age, or status. But then, all he wants is respect, loyalty, fidelity and ultimately, don't go through his phone. Lol. Was joking about that 馃槀. But seriously, don't go through your mans phone, if you don't want to go back to being single. But then, you can go through it, but you'll learn. You will learn the hard way.
Anyways
Women on the other hand are fragile creatures. Though some are strong, they are still fragile.
From my little experience with women, I will say that; they want to feel secured when they are with their man. They always want to feel like the man is the head of the house. They always want to know that their man is capable. They always want to understand that they are the second in command, not the first in any way.
Women are people who want their man to be authoritative with them. Not too authoritative, don't overdo it, but then, know when to do it. They want to respect their man to the fullest, knowing too well that he is above them in every way possible.
Age is a huge hindrance when it comes to relationships and marriage. Yes I love her, you may say, but then, Relationship and marriage is not all about love. Love fades gradually with time.
However, respect and loyalty remains.
Now, a woman, an average woman perse, will not want to respect a guy who she is older than. Nope. Though they will not show you this initially, mainly the ones who are getting to menopause, but trust me, they will start showing their real colors after a couple years of marriage.
I once dated this girl who is older than me. At that time, I was 22 while she was 25. The age gap is not much. This was when I had the mindset of "age is just a number."
We actually started the relationship without knowing the age of each other. A mistake I will never do.
Some weeks into the relationship, I decided to enquire about her age but she refused to tell me.
Normally, I know women to an extent, and how they can be, so I decided to keep calm.
I kept asking her about her age for some days, until she finally told me.
In a shaky voice, she said that she was 25 very silently. I didn't heard the first time, so she said it again and I got it.
She asked about mine, and I told her. She told me that it is not an issue. The only problem there is love.
I have the same mindset, so I flowed with it.
Some months into the relationship, I noticed her disrespectful behaviour but then, I just kept calm. Love blinds yaknow.
One day, she did something wrong. I tried to correct her, but she was not listening to me. It made us had a lot key issue which later escalated when she said something.
When I was trying tell her that what she did was wrong, she gave me an eye that shows that she was looking down on me. I refused to read meaning to it, so I continued with what I was saying.
I could feel her getting annoyed but I continued with my preaching regardless.
The next thing I heard was "see this one, as you small so, which life experience wey you get to give me advice on what is good and bad?" Meaning "look at this small boy, what experience do you think you have to tell me what is good and bad?
I paused as the words rang in my head.
What did you say? I asked she realized her self and immediately apologized.
I refused the apology and wanted to know why she said that but she was not giving any tangible explanation, so I acted as if I was okay, so I would not have to apologize for the fact that she messed up, and it got me annoyed.
I pondered over her words. Trying to get meaning but nothing was coming.
For the next few days, she was good and calm. After a while, she continued with that same disrespectful character, which made me really uncomfortable. Instead of being blinded by love, this time, I could see through.
I confided in my mom about it (I do tell my mom every important thing about me) and she shouted. You know African mom and their drama.
Young man, you will never bring an older woman to my house.
I tried to call her down which worked out well.
Using the situation I was facing, she gave me her advice which I took.
After some time, I broke up with the girl. Not because I lost feelings, but because the age difference was making us have issues.
We broke up in good terms. Though we don't really talk nowadays because everyone is busy with their life.
I will not ask you reading this to not give it a try, but then,in everything you do, always, always be careful and never be blinded by love.
When you fall in love, open your eyes. Nigerians will say, shine your eyes. Lol. So, I will tell you, shine your eyes like torch light and make sure that you get your taste.
Brothers and sisters, don't settle for less and don't be quick to gst married.
This is my entry for the hive learners prompt.
Thank you for reading.
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