This is an entry into this week's Word of The Week challenge initiated by 
EQUANIMITY:
Evenness of mind or temper; calmness or firmness, especially under conditions adapted to excite great emotion; a state of resistance to elation, depression, anger, etc
Recently I have been in a very difficult situation with someone very close to me. Honestly, it has been hard to manage the whole situation, and it isn’t something I can disregard given that the party involved is someone I care about. When it comes to people close to your heart, you operate on a different level, one not solely logical but emotional as well.
Fortunately, I am a calm person by nature ( I believe so..). My digital footprint might say otherwise but in my element, I am calm and aloof most times. I like to view life from the spectator's seat with a bit of humour and sarcasm.
I do not see the need to fuss about anything beyond my control. If I can not change the circumstance around a situation then there is no point worrying about it--that's my philosophy. I practise avoidance when it comes to conflict. However, if there is anything I have learnt in life, it is that most problems must be tackled and not avoided.
Dealing with difficult situations is a major source of stress for me. As mentioned earlier, I am a very peaceful person and I do not like confrontation. However, when I have to tackle important issues I try to do so with some level of calmness.
HOW DO I MANAGE TO STAY CALM?
First rule: never to say what you don't mean. This is because you can never take those words back. In the fit of rage, people must say hurtful things they don't mean and this tends to ruin relationships.
Words are seeds and often what we speak grows into thoughts and eventually, they manifest in ourselves in different forms. So I am very mindful of what I say when in difficult situations. Most times I rather say nothing
Second rule: Mean what you say. You need to be firm. Oftentimes people mistake calmness with fear. To avoid this you must maintain your position when you've made a resolve. This is why you shouldn't be quick to speak or act.
Meaning what you say also entails communicating effectively. Be concise and articulate. Let the other person understand your position and stand by it.
Third rule: learn to let go. In your bid to remain calm and firm, do also understand that not every situation is the same. We should know when to compromise.
Most times being right is not as important as coming to a conclusion or resolution that favours the parties involved in the conflict resolution process.
In conclusion, certain things are beyond your control. Only exert your time and energy on things you can control and these are situations where the 3 rules apply. I hope you found this useful. Cheers!