To give this answer I must go back to my childhood, because if you had asked this question to my parents some 29, 30 years ago they would have undoubtedly said without hesitation “definitely selfish”.
I remember my fights as a teenager with my older sister, she totally crazy and messy, and me the complete opposite (this was also an aspect that changed over the years). The most common were the fights over clothes, she would take my things without asking me for them and then when I wanted to wear them I usually couldn't find them because she had already worn them and ended up finding them in the laundry basket.
I don't know if because she was the “oldest” she thought she had the right to do it, but the truth is that my mom instead of telling her to respect my things and ask me to borrow them, she would tell me “don't be selfish, she is your sister”.
I confess that on more than one occasion I hid the clothes I knew she liked the most so she wouldn't take them away from me, but she always ended up finding them... I'm sure my mom was her accomplice, hahahaha... I was really mad about this, because she was so careless that sometimes she ended up damaging my things or misplacing them.
-In the photo my sister with the face of a saint 😂-
It was something that I could never really solve, peace came home when she went to study out of town, the fights over clothes were over, but I was very careful not to let her take anything of mine in her suitcase.
The truth is that I grew up with that label that my mother gave me of “selfish”, and I bought it, for a long time I was ‘territorialist’, something like the motto of “what's mine is mine and no one else's”.
Then over the years that was changing, fortunately I left that “territorialist” vision and now I have no qualms about sharing and helping everyone I can. I think my vision of life changed drastically after the first accident. Now I am more of that current of thought that believes that “giving and receiving is an expression of the same thing”.
I firmly believe that when you give with an open heart the universe gives you back the grace multiplied; and also that it is necessary to live life without attachments in order not to harbor so much suffering.
As a funny anecdote I tell you the end of this story; now my sister is upset because her teenage daughter disappears her clothes and wears them without borrowing them, and I laugh from afar seeing how she is paying for her karma, hahahaha.
This was my response to Weekend-Engagement topics: WEEK 271
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