As we grow older, we get to learn things about life. I have pondered a lot on whether people really care about you or whether they just care about what you can offer them. I think both are the case.
I believe that as humans, we always look for things that would benefit us. There are people who only care about what you offer them. They don't truly care about you. They might pretend that they do but ultimately, it somehow becomes obvious that all they cared about is what they benefit from you. The same is true about relationships and friendships. Some people go into relationships because of what their partner gives them.
Their main focus or reason for being in that relationship or friendship is what they stand to gain. It could be money or something else. They don't care about the person in particular.
Now, I'm not saying it's bad to want to benefit from a person you're in a relationship with. But then, you should also care deeply about that person. The person's wellbeing, progress and success should matter to you. In addition, you should be willing to give to that person too. You should be a benefit to that person. You should be there to help them when they need you.
This is what makes relationships beautiful.
When someone cares about you first, it shows. It shows in their actions, it shows in how interested they are in you and the things that concern you. It shows in how they always want the best for you. It always shows.
But when the opposite is the case and they just care about what you offer them, your wellbeing doesn't matter. The don't care about what affects you, as long as they keep benefiting from you.
Ultimately, I'm of the opinion that both matters. You need to care about a person as much as you care about what they offer you. Nobody wants to be in a friendship or relationship where they don't benefit anything. At least there should be an advantage to being close to that person. The care is also important.
On the other hand, you should also be the kind of person they can benefit from, and you should be sure that they truly care about you.
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