Have you asked anyone in your life "How are you?" recently?
Not the one with the simplest reply, " I am OK" but an actual situation of their emotional state or life.
I often do that with my mom during our coffee date. I ask her that question despite the fact that we meet everyday.
Over the years, I've grown closer to my mom maybe because she's getting pleasant to be with. She stopped nagging and did the thing that most moms do. We are friends and I find that enjoyable; I think that's how a mom-daughter relationship should be.
On our coffee date, she likes to try new things. Sometimes it is quite embarrassing that she critiques the food loudly. But I am used to it by now. Over coffee and food, she would tell me how she is feeling and her coworkers. All of My mom's coworkers are the same age as I am and older.
She always tells me how her life is quite colorful surrounded by younger people.
Honestly, it's quite a contrast to my life where I am surrounded by people who are older than me.
Does that make my life less colorful? nope. not at all. I think older people are more practical though some of them can be quite cynical.
I learn a lot from their failures in life that I get to hear from time to time.
Sometimes, some of them give me hope that even if I fuck up real bad, I could always start over as long as I am not dead.
Just like this year where I am starting over from scratch. To be fair, it hasn't been easy. I compared myself a lot to others. But last night, I got this question, " You're only in your mid-20s. Who are you comparing yourself to?"
That puts me into perspective where at my age, I am not doing that bad.
I also recently heard a song from Jay kill ft hustle standard that the lyrics goes like this
" if it's easy i don't deserve it
i want it to last
so i gotta earn it"
Maybe that's the key
The road won't be easy but it's going to be worth it.
So, have you been asking yourself or others close to you, " How are you today?"
