I have to work in order to earn my living. But many times I changed my job because simply I didn't enjoy it or because of a side effect. I always kept asking should I keep working or change the job. Ignore the bad sides and focus on the good ones? At the end of the day a job is not something I can pick walking on the street. It is hard to be jobless and it is hard to work while suffering because of discordance with the business world. And always my motivation comes to a final question: “Is it worth it?” My life is precious to me and this statement tricks me and motivates me to quit from the current job, without thinking through. Changing a job is normal and I see it as a pursuit, but it can turn into a trap if handled in a rush mood. Here in this post I share my thoughts on how I reframe my emotions and stay attached to the good mood.
Reframing helps me to buy some time and lift the clouds that lowers my mood. I try to change the way I see the job. Let me emphasize that this doesn’t mean to hold on to current position and embrace the sacrifice. It is more about going with the flow and accept the circumstances, and at the same time being responsible, reasonable and optimistic. It is about caring of my emotions but avoiding them to pull me down and nail to the ground. Otherwise I can be paralyzed mentally and lose my sight.
So how about thinking that a job is not only about making money? Yes I understand money is necessary, I use it improve and sustain my material life. But on the other side, a job can also be about improving other people’s lives while money is being the common cause…
When I look into the big picture, my task at hand complements the other colleague’s tasks. Or my service, activity affects the other person’s life quality. All the jobs are cumulative efforts. Then maybe a job is an opportunity to seed trust, harmony and support. As a result, people will have a better mood for living. These people can be my colleague, boss, customer, another company, government etc. Jobs create communication channels between people using money as a context; to learn, support and get inspired from each other. Why not try to use this opportunity to build a more meaningful life?
I want to quit. My mood goes low and I just want to escape. But I believe escaping blindly brings more discomfort after the dust settles down. Courage is good, but being bold requires me to calculate necessary steps I should take. On the other hand seeing my exploration as an effort to create my own path and as a therapy can open different doors. Bad mood won’t bring anything good. But a positive attitude, even in hopeless situations, can help me see more clearly. Mood is powerful. It shapes the way I see the world. I know it is hard to stay in good mood. As a quick cheat, I found out that focusing on the outer world, such as details, smell, colors, people, cars, sounds helps. In short; whenever my chest shrinks down, focusing on anything or eyeballing on everything, helps to keep away from the negative mood and soothes my mind.
I often remind myself to focus on one question: “What is in it for me?” and keep telling myself: "Today shall pass." Because I don’t want to waste my day on unconcluded desires and frustrations. I try to find at least one lesson, one experience, one value from the day. This way no day is fully wasted. If I am not satisfied or happy with my current job I try to see it as a path to be walked. Nothing in life happens without a purpose. There is a lesson to be learned always. Change is my wish, but time is one of the ingredients for the results. Instead of waiting in sorrow, I think about the things I own at the moment and appreciate them. The day deserves to be appreciated.
Also, it is okay to feel the job is not appropriate for me, even just after a recent job change. I consider myself as an adventurer exploring new territories. In new lands, I may not feel safe or comfortable at first. But that is part of the journey. Being careful, keeping good relationships, and holding a good attitude is already a value that defines me, not the job. It is just a tool to earn living.
Being an explorer includes falls and hurts. It requires me to stand up every single time. It is a ritual; to fall, to rise and keep going. And again that is not a curse, but a strength. Each fall teaches me how to stand better. I try not to chase or suppress any emotions. They are just responses of my body, results of what happens, not causes. So I don’t let them control me. Instead I try to reach a holistic mindset. Of course changing the way I see working, doesn't solve every problem. But it gives me a more powerful mind, and a stronger heart. The job may not be the fit, but my life is still my responsibility. I can walk this path with curiosity, awareness and meaning. And maybe this is the real job I am here to do.
All the best...
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