I have noticed that a lot of people have certain notion about how a marriage ceremony should look like which I feel should be fine-tuned. Especially for young people and families who are not financially buoyant but are struggling to measure up to societal standards of an average owanbe (Saturday parties).
It is my desire that this post would provoke a change of heart to go along way at making the lives of young couples and their immediate families better
So This beautiful Saturday morning I reluctantly woke up checked my time it was exactly 25minute past 6.am that is 6:25am. Immediately, I went on my kneels to thank God for the miracle of sleeping and waking up then committed my ways unto His hands.
The previous night, I had made an arrangement with some family friends to attend a wedding ceremony of another friend and the set off time was slated for 8: am on the dot. This wedding is the reason of my write up today so sharply, I got up went straight to my work studio where I immediately cut out a sky blue fabric to create a turban cap that could compliment my dressing and it came out really beautiful.
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You know how you dress now when going for an event you want to be your best isn’t it?**
Before I forge ahead, permit me to share my own definition of marriage.
****## marriage for me
is the coming together of two adults, a man and a woman in the content of law and their believes with the consent of their parents/families as the case maybe and in the presence of friends and well-wishers to exchange vows and receive the blessings of the union to live together as husband and wife.****
I will like to know if you agree with my definition or you notice something missing let me know still, I have come to realize that as we hive on, we learn more.
You see, a lot of young people are not yet married because they have not understood marriage from this perspective.
I hear of argument from this side of the world back and forth on how you have to break the bank just to get married and which marriage is the most important whether the traditional, church or court marriage, I think we should uld be guided.
When this friend whose marriage we went to witness informed me that the event was going to be traditional and court wedding with few family friends, I hugged him so tightly because to me he made a wise decision not to lavish the insufficient fund he has. Because he is a young Nigerian hardworking youth, engaged with a legit pig farming business
Fast-forward to the traditional wedding it was restricted to only family members this really helped the couple to conserve money for the rainy day. The two families consented according to their various believes and cultures, the bride price was paid, families became in-laws, marriage was consummated and blessed.
In my view, this aspect is very important in fact, some people are of the school of thought that traditional marriage is the only recognised in the bible.
This is the picture of the couple in their traditional marriage attire.
I made a cake for them which had dual functions
see our cake here sitting pretty as a traditional wedding cake
You know, at some point when I was growing up, I had it in mind that I was not going to have an elaborate wedding, I saw it as a sheer waste of resources I believed that there was life after the ceremonies and I would not want to be running here and there for help. One way or the other, it turned out so
In the case of the couples in this post,they took their marriage vows a step further by going to the Registry where the law recognises that they are legally married. Even though some individuals believe that the court marriage only favours the woman and not the man. I will like to harvest your opinion on this too
For the traditional ceremony too, we were not up to twenty guests that witnessed it live and direct and we sang, danced took pictures and selfies in turns just as it would be in a society wedding nothing missing at all
It was so interesting and less expensive I must say
It gives me great pleasure to show
Our cake here sitting pretty as a white wedding cake
The yorubas have a culture of the groom carrying his bride during the wedding here it is in action
The moment many wait for in ceremonies of this nature,
you may kiss the bride
was not left out.
There was exchange of marital vows and rings,signing of the marriage certificate and all
Guests where entertained **
you know the rice and stew very plenty slogan**
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so I began asking the question again****
What are the unmarried men and women waiting for?
Why do you want to struggle to do a societal wedding that you cannot afford?
And if you can afford it, how much do you have in reserved to help you start the new life?
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To parents and would be parents out there who are ready to do all it takes to give their children befitting wedding at all cost, have you taken time to see what dividend those monies will yield if only they are invested into starting a life for the couples? Just think about it**
I pray this write up goes far to reaching the right audience. i am optimistic that it will form a public opinion for a changed mentality and our societies will be better
I pray we learn from this and cut our clothes according to yard of materials and not size, I pray we understand that marriage ceremony is just one day out of forever waiting ahead **##
**My candid submission,if you have the money please spend it. Me too, I love parties but if you don't have don't kill yourself nobody gives award to the couples with the loudest societal wedding
Please don't run into debt due to societal pressure. They will finish eating and drinking then go to their houses you will be left alone to face the music.
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Reality
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