As far as I can tell, the problem with people who have an unreasonably high sense of their worth is that it usually manifests itself in their relationship with others and that can be dangerous for several reasons. However, the issue of toxicity comes into play when the person speaks and acts without making any effort to care about the feelings of those around them.
This post is all about toxic relationships and it's not just as it relates to relationships between those who are sexually attracted to each other. Even the relationship between siblings and the ones between parents and their kids can be toxic.
You've got to know that I'm not making any of this up. I've seen my fair share of these relationships to know that a lot of people have some serious thinking to do and serious decisions to make about the way they treat their parents, siblings, kids, spouse... name it.
Even as we are digging around it, the idea is to create awareness about toxic relationships and hopefully create guidelines that can help people walk away from relationships like that. Well, who needs to hear this? Everyone, I suppose. But we don't have 'everyone' here. And, some people are trapped in different sorts of relationships where they are being pulled down by someone who is supposed to love and care for them.
Do you know how long it takes to drown when you get into a toxic relationship? It happens almost immediately and, of course, it's this way because relationships aren't designed by nature to be toxic. So, it's an anomaly to be in one and it's very easy to look at it and see that this isn't going to end well. But, the problem is that it's not always easy to get out of that toxic relationship especially when you are already blinded by whatever got you into the relationship in the first first.
For guys, it's often the beauty of a lady. And for ladies, it's often the wealth of the guy. This is not the case in all relationships, but when people are so focused on whatever drew them to a relationship, they may know that they are getting themselves into a relationship with a toxic person, but they won't be so inclined to walk away from it. They think, "Once I get this from him or her, I'm sure I can deal with his/her toxic side".
Well, that's usually how it starts until the toxicity blows outta proportion and people end up being depressed or even losing their lives just because they got into a relationship. Some people knew they were getting in bed with a vile and diabolical creature, yet they chose to turn a blind eye to that red flag. In such cases, we can only hope that they would learn from that experience.
What about those that got into a relationship without foreknowledge of the toxic side of the other party?
Yeah, it happens and you shouldn't be surprised about that. I think everyone is capable of being toxic. You can look at it these ways;
1. Someone can support your achievements, but the same person competes against another person's achievement.
2. Someone can speak to you with kindness but speaks to another person with sarcasm and contempt.
3. Someone can be very honest with you and still makeup lies at every given interval when talking with another person.
4. The most respectful person you know can still be very disrespectful towards another person.
Think about that for a minute...
When getting into a relationship, we all want to be in it with someone that can support the things we do and be glad about our achievements. We want someone that speaks to us with kindness and respect. It gets even better when we know we can count on their honesty. Being with someone that projects an extreme opposite of these will most likely brew toxicity in the relationship.
Once you realize this, the next thing you have to do as someone that loves to be spoken to with kindness is to position yourself in a way that makes it very obvious that being rude to you would be a very bad idea. You may not know enough about someone you are getting into a relationship with, but you are sure you don't want dishonesty. Well, that's easy... Make it very obvious from the onset that being dishonest to you would be a very bad idea.
You'd know that expecting harmony in your relationship also warrants that you have to be respectful, honest, kind and co. Once you make it obvious that this is who you are and you only expect certain types of treatment from anyone you are in a relationship with, you would be surprised to see how anyone in a relationship with you would act even if he/she bites every other person hard.
The bottom line of this discussion is that the treatment you get from people is mostly based on the impression they have about you. If you give them the impression that they can walk all over you, be damn ready to be stepped on hard. But when people discuss with you and get the impression that you wouldn't allow any form of dishonesty, disrespect or contempt, those that know they can't have their way doing any of those toxic things will distance themselves from you.
Also, never be scared of giving up a toxic relationship. If you are in a toxic relationship and you are not ready to give it up, you will end up facing a higher degree of toxicity after each toxic experience with the person. 'The person' in this case can be a friend, your partner, colleagues, or family. Yeah, family relationship can also be toxic. Just be open to see people for who they are and walk away when the need arises.
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