There are times when people act or speak and every bit of their action makes it very obvious that they have been through a lot in life. Since we all have experience dealing with people, I will go further to say that y'all know how people's actions and inactions are shaped by the series of experiences they've been through.
One of the experiences that shapes people's actions is broken promises. When someone makes a promise to you and the person breaks that promise, it makes you ask important questions about what you did wrong to have led to the situation you are facing. Even the most trivial broken promise hurts and for someone like myself, I try to figure out what led to it so I will reduce the chances of being in a situation where I will have to go through that again.
That's always the case when someone makes a promise to me and breaks it. I can recall telling someone a few months ago to only promise me something when she's sure she will keep the promise. Even something as trivial as "I will give you a call by 1 a.m." counts as a promise in my book.
Since I'm very conscious of any promise made to me, do I also keep the promise I make to people?
I know you are already curious about that...
The simple answer is YES and I mean every alphabet in that word. However, I would like to dive into the detail which is somewhat complex if you happen to enjoy complexities.
In line with the question asked in this prompt, I would like to tell a story about 'when I broke a promise I made to someone'. I've been thinking about this for a very long time and I can't remember even a slight moment when I made a promise to someone without keeping that promise. I'm very serious about this.
I'm someone who learned very early to be mindful of every word I speak. I also do my very best to think before I speak and the reason I live by that standard is that even when I'm laughing with the lads while watching a game of football, I know that I'm always going to take responsibility for any and every word I speak. Since that's the case, do you think I will ever say something that I can't stick to?
That's the same thing that guides the promises I make. It just doesn't matter what's going on. If I ever open my mouth to make a promise to someone, I always break myself in half to make sure I will keep my word. And, this is something I've done countless times. I'm still thinking of any promise I've made to someone which I didn't keep, but I'm not sorry about this; there is NONE.
Whenever I plan to do something for someone and I'm not yet sure of my chances of getting it done, instead of saying "Hey, I will pay for your meal this weekend", I would rather say "I would like to pay for his/her meal this weekend". I'm not saying that to anyone... Just me setting a goal which I would like to achieve.
When I do that, I work out the maths and be sure that my chances of doing that are high. Once I'm satisfactorily sure, I can then go ahead and make the promise knowing fully well that I will stick to my word.
At the moment, I have a lot of things I plan to do for my Mum and I didn't promise her any of those things. She doesn't even have a clue that I'm working on those. However, once everything is set, she will get to see it happen.
If there has ever been a promise that I've broken in recent years, it will surely be the series of promises I thought of making but never really got to openly make them just because I did my maths and the odds were not giving me a positive result.
That's it, folks.
Thanks For Not Missing Any Full-stop Or Comma.
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