Another day passes and I wonder when the easy stage will start. Again I'm left wondering if I'm the issue or the solution. Consistency within the framework of parenting seems to be a myth. Or have I just missed the party bus of stress free parenting?
I have 馃ぜ wrestled with the realities of parenting for years. My son turns 7 years old this month, my goodness am I grateful he's my one and only. And no, don't comment it would be easier if there were more ... That's a lie.
Through the years I've realized seven truths that help me as I continue to grapple with the selfless act of parenting .. I hope they help you in some shape or form ...
My child owes me nothing. My control, my joy, my anger, my patience ... None of it should be determined by the behavior of my child.
It is my responsibility to help my child learn the art of emotional regulation. But until I can learn to regulate myself, he will never be given the opportunity to grow into a healthy mature human.
I am not raising a mini-me. My child is his own beautiful person yearning for his own unique signature in life.
Learn to listen to YOURSELF. You will never have the capacity to truly listen to them if you can't listen to yourself first.
Superiority and authority will never give me the connection I desire with my child nor what he truly needs.
Lived experiences will shape his heart, not mere words coming from my mouth. He needs to see, feel and experience the realities of life I try teach him.
Alone time may be resisted but it is one of the greatest gifts I can give him. Children will learn who they really are if they are given the space to be alone and discover themselves.
Share your thoughts with me, I have so many more years of parenting ahead of me.
