Good evening! I hope you had a great Sunday! I am so much interested in making you mad at me this good night; but don't be because we both don't need it. All we would want for ourselves in life is actually that everyone is fine when evil is no more the case in us. With reference as borrowed plume, "...take the evil out of people and they would be acting right." At times the evil may not actually be that kind of evil we might be imagining in our minds, scary being chasing us about and all that. The evil might be ignorance. Just ignorance. At times ignorance destroys beyond repair. But before damage is done, I want to grab our wounded spots so that we might be healed and acknowledge it.
Tomorrow is Monday right? The beginning of another working days yes? How is the day going to be? How are the rest of the days of the week going to be? Are they all going to be like past ones? Or would there be changes positively or negatively?
This is targeted at those who work in offices or who have colleagues who they work with under a firm or an establishment. Most especially the married ones among them. It has to do with what happens before they leave for office, what happens at the office and what happens after working hours. The purpose is to make them question selves for awareness as against ignorance. For instance, the number one job that comes to my mind when it comes to formal dressings almost everyday of the week has to do with the banking sector. They would be corporate and perfecto on the outside almost everyday of the week. But is there more to these things we see about them in the open place? It is said that, "There is more to everything than meets the eye."
Every couple-to-be were good at the beginning (that is constant). If not for that marriage normally would not have been. But later things become bad, from bad into worse. The bigger problem at times is not sourced from home, it is sourced from choosing to be ignorant of the possible outcomes of what we do outside. Whether good or bad, everything began at home though, "charity begins at home." Everything good or bad in our society began from the unity or disunity of a home. But it could get compounded outside.
A worker who used to be responsible turns to be very useless on purpose based on what had happened at home. Maybe from a break in communication, misunderstanding comes in. The either of the couple is not responsible in bed anymore and not catering for the family too any longer. And the two leave for work, on getting to work, either frown up or are not concentrating. Such a ones are noticed by another. The colleague comes in into the matter with negative items of advice on ways out as most items of advice people in the world today would give you is negative and the attitude to ignore the reality of the effect by the receiver, is the ignorance part of it. We all want our problems gone at the blink of an eye, irrespective of how the solution could come, like tada.
The colleague, after long discourse, asks the husband to try and check one of the young ladies he has out to quench his thirst and hunger. Adding that that is no big deal, in their office, the GM does it, the MD does it, even pastor Kini too is a professional at it and the same thing with Alhaja Kini too. The same experience with the wife too. She is being advised wrongly. The items of advice would then have clouded the thinking faculty of both even before thinking to think otherwise.
The couple get home with different experiences and life of satisfaction off each other. Nobody is talking about the problems no more. The fight deepens as day advances. In the long run the problems birth separation. Did I hear someone blame the devil? Don't we all have choices again?
Why must you two go to bed without resolving your misunderstandings before the following morning?
Why must you continue to converse your family matters with a colleague whose advice is ill?
Why must you not shut the colleague up and reason the consequence of such items of advice the colleague is giving?
Why must you listen and take it?
Why must you not resist the pressure of the ill advice being given you frequently?
Why must you do the same thing because everyone is doing it -- if everyone was falling down from storey building would you join them or care to use the stairs?
Why must you not have faith in the God who commanded 2 to come together to become 1?
Why must you not reason whenever what is to become 1 becoming 2 is the beginning of endless nightmares for you 2?
Why must you not think twice selflessly about everything for the two of you before any form of decision or indecision?
Why must you not see every challenge in your relationship as a means to an end, the end in itself being to make your relationship stronger for goodness sake, thus the need to forbear faithfully through?
Go to firms tomorrow, you'd see people being formal in approach; going up and down with their perfumes diffused everywhere, doing this and that till they are done for the day. You, and them you are looking at have problems from home, things you might have at a time failed to be able to resolve back at home, and have decided to discourse with colleagues. Any items of advice or actions to be given on them should be checked by tracing down the most likely results through the sort of the advice given, before taking them in:
A wife chases the husband with a gun always to kill him. The colleague advises the husband to look for another woman to keep besides. How would that solve the problem A? -- The wife chasing the husband with a gun? Is that compounding the problem or solving it? In all, colleagues at office, don't advice your colleagues wrongly down the path to harm because of the colleague's desperation for a way out. Fear God!
Ultimately, every home must understand that there is no home that is perfect in the world, each home thus must learn to manage the home at all times by involving God and brain for the way out always. Only God is infallible, trust me some of your colleagues do some things you don't want to know in that same office of work because they have lost their tracks at home but certainly, to what end? When such advise another home, it is most likely to mar and not to make.
So, colleagues whose extra-office activity is to make matter worse for the other colleagues at work through misguides, should stop doing that. Do the right thing beginning from tomorrow. There is goodness and healing in that. Colleagues seeking advice too should be very careful of the kinds of information they act upon, for 1 problem from home taken down to the working place not to get multiplied by 1000 if adequate caution is not taken. Get these acknowledgements?
