Almost everyone has at least one person in their lives who brings them toxic energy. It's important to recognize these people and try to stay away from them. You don't have to cut off the relationship completely, but it's important to set boundaries and limit your interactions with them. It's also important to focus on the positive relationships in your life and to surround yourself with people who bring you joy and support.
As I write this, I am currently thinking about one person. Each time I communicate with that person, they keep deflecting, and this drains me of all positive energy.
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When I try to communicate with them, I try my best to stay positive and keep my communication with them as civil as possible. But the more I try to do it, the more and more and more difficult it gets.
In some cases, I wonder if they are even aware that they are deflecting and it is affecting their victim, or maybe they are just doing it unconsciously. It's hard to know for sure, but it's important to remember that the impact of their deflection is still very real, regardless of their intention.
It's important that we stay aware of this dynamic and strive to be conscious of our interactions with others.
When it becomes too much to handle, I avoid further conversations with them. Even if I explain my points repeatedly, at some point, I just feel like I am talking to a rock.
But, how do we deal with people who deflect?
Sometimes, the best way is to remain calm and try to find a compromise. One can also try to make sure to explain their points in a clear and concise manner so they understand. If that doesn't work, it may be best to end the conversation and move on. As you can see from what I've written so far, I just decide to end the conversation.
If someone is unconsciously deflecting, how can we tell?
The truth is, unconscious deflection can be difficult to identify, but there are often signs that the person is not being open and honest.
For example, they may avoid certain topics, change the subject abruptly, or be vague or evasive when asked a question. They may also have difficulty staying focused or following through on their commitments. They may also be quick to blame others or make excuses for their behaviour. They may also be dismissive of other people's ideas or opinions. These are all signs of deflection.
Honestly, these are all the signs I see in that person, and that's the reason why when it gets to the limit that I can't bear, I just create a boundary to protect myself emotionally and mentally.
Creating a boundary is not an easy thing to do, but it is a necessary step to take for self-preservation. It's important to remember that boundaries can be temporary and are not meant to be permanent. It is also important to remember that boundaries are not a sign of weakness but of strength.
How do you deal with people like that, and what is your opinion on this matter?
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