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It is a new year, and as humans, we always wish and hope for the new year to be better and brighter than the last. We make resolutions, and promises on things we want to achieve in the new year, many of which we couldn't achieve in the past years.
A popular slogan where I come from is, "new year, new life", though you never can tell if there might actually be anything new about the person's life asides the fact that his/her age will increase. On the last day of the year, we tend to advise ourselves to drop bad habits and cross over as a new person. Back then, my mother would tell me to change my circle of friends, especially if she had seen that all they mostly do is bring trouble to me. She would advise me to become friends with people that would help me academically. Sometimes I would listen to her, or pretend to do what she had said. But now as a grown up, without being told, I know when the people around me are not contributing positively to my life, and I also know that if they remain in my life, things will continue to go sideways for me.
Last year, I met new people, made friends and lost friends, and that's how life is supposed to be. One thing is sure that this year, I'd get to meet new people and still make new friends, but as for the friends I had last year, the ones that stayed until the end. Some of them might not remain in my life this new year. The reason for this is because I have realized that my path and theirs are way too different, and it is my belief that the people in our lives play a major role on what we will turn out to become in the future.
But there are still some that will stay in my life. That doesn't mean that they do not have their faults; no one is ever perfect. But with all their faults and imperfections, they add value to my life, and I add to theirs too.
Changing your circle of friends doesn't necessarily have to be because the ones in your life are not adding value to you. If you as a person have seen that you do not bring anything to another person's life, then you should leave too. One should mingle with people that can help him/her grow, people that can see his/her potential, and not be biased in correcting their wrongs. Just as I want my circle to influence me positively, I should be able to do the same for the people in my life.
Also, I've learnt that networking is good for a person's growth. As an undergraduate who is expected to join the labor market soon, the people I familiarize myself with is important. Since currently, most of the people I know are fellow students, I think networking with people who have gone beyond education, and has achieved the goals that I dream of, will be best for me. That way, they can mentor me, and correct me in the areas that I lack.
Overall, this year should be about growth, and if the people in my circle isn't contributing to that, and I'm not contributing to their lives too, the best option would be to cut them off. We all deserve to be surrounded with people who will see our potential, and bring value to our lives.
