Love needs limits. And even more so if we understand this feeling as wanting the good for the other, or that their needs matter to you as much as yours or more. You can't love without limits if you want that bond to be healthy.
The problem is that we understand the limit only as "no” or prohibitions, but they are more than that. It implies reducing the complexity of the experience, it implies generating conditions in which you can develop and thrive.
Without limits there is only chaos.
Let's look at the example of parenting, if a father does not set limits to his children they are not happier, nor do they live more fully.
On the contrary, they are filled with anguish and suffering when they perceive the world as a hostile and unfair place.
Boundaries teach us to place ourselves in relation to others, to know where your rights begin and mine end. Boundaries and love go hand in hand.
I think it's good to think about love in a different way. We can reinterpret this feeling and see beyond. For example: a conscious marriage not only resolves conflicts, but revives passion, fosters individual fulfillment and contributes to a more connected world.
It is always good to take care of our word, energy, decisions, and limits what we dream, build and also what we choose not to accept. And that list without excuses or postponements, we headed it ourselves.
To mature is also to establish limits in relationships and that implies understanding the times of your partner, in addition to recognizing that he has a life of his own, with routines, plans, and moments of solitude and that this does not diminish the important place we occupy in his life, without that necessary respect any bond weakens and never works. It's like embarking on a heroic journey of self-knowledge.
Throughout my life, my partner and I have learned to give free rein to our alter egos and look each challenge we try to challenge each other head on to recognize our cracks and find love in them.
Fall in love with the struggle. Embrace the discomfort. Because what weighs you down today is exactly what's going to lift you up tomorrow.
We humans are weird.
And in that reminder is hidden the greatest of freedoms: to understand that difficulty is not the enemy, but the way.
I am fortunate to have the love of God and together with him, that of my partner, that of my family and el.de my friends who are family, and also the love of all those who believe in me.
This day I wish for real love to save this world because behind every misfortune there is a lot of lack of real Love.
Happy real love day to all.
Janitze.🌷
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