When they say "high standards" ...

Everyone thinks about money, and I only think about loyalty, respect, mutual understanding and facing difficult times together.

Speaking clearly, without romanticizing, with your feet on the ground.

Mature love does not avoid the dark night of conflict, but learns to walk through it together, holding the light of reparation and forgiveness at every dawn.

Why am I talking about this? Because in my experience, to mature is to sustain in the comfortable and in the uncomfortable, in health and in sickness, in wealth and in poverty, in sorrows and in joys, in failures and in triumphs.

Needing attention, affection and presence is not emotional dependence. Preferring to be with the one you love either. To be afraid of losing it, much less. To be human is not to be broken: it is to be alive and to need those who do us good.

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We find our way when we accept that strong waves, storms and the onslaughts of the sea are not obstacles... they are part of the journey, to listen, readjust and protect the fragility of the other, and it is not to run away from difficulties, but to face them together. In fact, in the face of the daily blows in the relationship, being vulnerable is not exposing yourself to danger, it is daring to show your heart because you trust that it will be taken care of, by the couple.

True love is presence and daily care, even if it costs, it's not just feeling, it's acting. Above all, to build bridges where there used to be walls. A relationship that is beautiful grows, when we can talk about the uncomfortable, although the conflict is annoying and oh that if it is, it is always a great opportunity to get to know each other, rear and reconnect, in the deepest.

A couple of weeks ago my husband and I went for a walk to a very nice place, we were just looking for a space for both of us to be alone, excellent for our bond to be oxygenated, we will soon turn 48 years of marriage, and it is always good and healthy to nurture the relationship.

For more than forty years, I have recognized the value of my partner, to be accompanied in life by someone, who knows my imperfections, who loves me as I am, who knows what I need to improve, is my treasure, it is a blessing in my life. I find it very sexy, on my part, not to accept confusing links in my life.

We are in mature love, who asks us how we are and we tell the truth. On the other hand, immature love is that which flees to hide in the catacombs of its soul.

We all want a deep relationship, but very few are willing to be honest, loyal and show their monsters, besides daring to be vulnerable.

We do not heal by isolating ourselves from the world, we heal by linking ourselves from reciprocity, care, affinity and respect.

Janitze.🌷