Often times we struggle to speak up for ourselves, we have the right words to communicate our feelings to others but we are scared of confrontation or being perceived as the “bad guy”.
Across all ages, genders, and races, humans need to be loved, adored, and respected has resulted in the fear of confrontations and this desire to be loved by people can hold us back from speaking our truth at times when it needs to be heard.
While we try to tread cautiously in our relationship with people we must know that humans are insatiable and whatever you do or whatever length you go to, you just can’t get into everybody’s good book. Not everyone will like you and that’s perfectly fine. The sooner you realize this bitter truth the faster you get to live a peaceful and healthy life.
Our journeys are different and unique, and so are our battles. Realizing that not everyone will support or like your pattern and choices is the first step to being in control of your emotions. This discovery helps you to understand the need to prioritize your own wants and needs before anyone else’s.
There’s no manual to learning how to speak up for oneself. You can read all the self-help books in the world and listen to all the motivational talk shows that ever existed but you’d still struggle to speak up for yourself and once this happens you become a constant pry to insecure people who would naturally want to project their insecurities on you.
I think a lot of people, myself included, have been in situations where we let things slide just to avoid conflict.
Even in a relationship or a marriage, no one gets through any of it without communicating their feelings appropriately to their partners as this aids conflict resolution and better understanding of your partner.
As I stated earlier, No book or advice can fully prepare you for that moment when you have to choose between speaking up or staying silent. It can be difficult, and uncomfortable sometimes, other times it might not go the way you must have envisaged it to go but the more you insist and do it, the more you realize that your voice matters. Some people won’t like it but you see those who truly respect you and your personality? This wouldn’t be a problem.
Research has shown that one of the biggest issues people are faced with is speaking up for themselves and people who are unable to speak up for themselves are usually timid, scared, and insecure.
In conclusion, it isn’t just about speaking up for yourself to score points or feel a type of way, it is about finding that balance between being true to yourself and maintaining your relationship with others.
Speaking up is not an easy feat, but the alternative of bottling things up and feeling like you’re losing your true self has more consequences than the former.
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