I don't like stress.
When I have stress that just bothering me and keep thinking how to deal with.
That's my defense mechanism. It's good but bothering.
But it can let me thinking "what" is bothering me now?
Second step, I will thinking why? why this thing is bothering me?
I can think differently. Can I prevent the situation? Or it just happened and all I should do is acceptance.
Third step, I will try to deal with it. How can I do?
Can I do something to make things all right? If it is, just do it and the feeling will disappear. If can't do anymore, just accept what is happened.