Saludos amigos de Holos-lotus. Me siento muy agradecida porque recibí invitaciones de algunos hivers para participar en esta iniciativa que nos pone a reflexionar sobre ciertas situaciones en las que debemos hacer valer nuestros derechos, a defendernos A Capa y Espada. Aprovecho de invitar a @mcookies y @dayadam a participar.
Siempre he estado en desacuerdo con la injusticia, con el abuso, que dejemos de lado nuestros derechos y por eso he llegado a la conclusión que esos son los momentos justos cuando debemos defendernos a capa y espada. Recuerdo de niña que mi madre era defensora de sus derechos, era peleadora, pero lograba sus objetivos y más cuando de hacer valer la justicia se trataba. Era persistente y muy positiva, tanto, que a veces me parecía algo exagerada.
Yo por el contrario en principio era muy pesimista, algo que afortunadamente cambió en mí para bien. Siendo niña me pasaba que yo no hacía valer mis derechos, cuando trataba me persuadían y para no discutir le terminaba dando la razón a esa persona. Me sentía incapaz de defenderme porque me importaba más “estar o quedar bien”, era más importante ser aceptada, ¿increíble no?. La única forma en la que yo defendiera mi punto de vista era si otra persona del grupo me apoyaba, del resto, mi opinión era nula.
Me faltaba seguridad, un elemento muy importante, sin embargo, yo misma me empecé a dar cuenta de mi error, que no podía dejarle mi defensa a un tercero, que debía defender a capa y espada mis convicciones, decisiones y sobre todo la justicia. Sobre el abuso “ya no más” me dije.
En mi trabajo he vivido situaciones que me han puesto en vilo a causa de acciones mal intencionadas, abuso de poder que pudieron haber tenido consecuencias muy negativas al punto de incidir en mi continuidad laboral. Nunca me rendí, un compañero de trabajo me decía “yo muero con las botas puestas, como buen soldado”, mientras que mi lema era “mientras viva me defiendo a capa y espada y más si hay injusticias” .
El abuso de poder lo viví por algún tiempo en la empresa donde laboro desde hace 14 años y 10 meses, fueron como unos 3 años aproximadamente, toda una pesadilla. Resulta que el Gerente de aquel entonces quería “hacernos caer” a un grupo de 4 jefes para botarnos o que renunciáramos, fue una época horrible donde tuvo de cómplices a algunos empleados que tenía a mi cargo. Ellos me saboteaban el trabajo, me daban malas contestas, era una lucha constante y obviamente eran defendidos por la gerencia.
De hecho, en una oportunidad uno de ellos presionó con renunciar si yo no me iba, es decir, puso a mi jefe inmediato a escoger entre él y yo. Yo no iba a renunciar por nadie, mi madre estaba enferma de Alzheimer y necesitaba el trabajo, y así mi madre estuviera sana. ¿Cómo renunciar por un capricho de otra persona?. De inmediato, le dije “si te quieres ir vete, yo no voy a renunciar”, enseguida dijo que él se iba y así fue, a los pocos días renunció, pero antes, se encargó de regar por toda la empresa que fui la responsable de su salida. Las personas que se me acercaron para hablarme de ese desagradable suceso era para defenderlo, yo por mi parte les aclaraba las cosas, defendía a capa y espada mi posición y mi nombre.
Una de las expresiones que no soporto por tener una connotación despectiva y humillante es “Yo soy el jefe y aquí se hace lo que yo digo” ó “aquí mando yo porque soy el jefe”. Yo siendo jefe nunca la uso ni la he usado, no obstante, una vez la usaron conmigo.
Resulta que un empleado se quejó de una gotera en su cubículo y como era del agrado de la Superintendente le pidió cambiarse a mi cubículo y yo al de él. Esa decisión fue sin consultarme, llegué una mañana y lo encontré en mi cubículo, él mismo se encargó de decirme que “no se iba a calar esa gotera”, ah pero yo sí, un abuso total. Fui a hablar con la Superintendente y me dijo muy molesta que tomó esa decisión porque “ella es la jefa y se hace lo que ella diga y punto”. De momento me quedé sin habla, pero apenas se calmaron los ánimos hablé con ella y le dije que el hecho de ser Superintendente no le daba el derecho a abusar y gritarme, y que si quería mejorar la condición de un espacio físico de un trabajador no era precisamente desmejorando a otro, o sea, el mío. Ella me pidió disculpas y la decisión que tomó fue trasladar al empleado a otro lugar mientras se solventaba lo de la gotera y yo regresé a mi puesto.
Definitivamente hay cosas en las que no vale la pena gastar energía, sin embargo, hay situaciones de situaciones en las que no podemos permitir el atropello ni la injusticia. Esto no debe confundirse con elevar nuestro ego en una lucha de poderes. Se tratar de hacer valer nuestros derechos, sin sopesar, con bases y mucha seguridad en nosotros mismos para defender lo justo a capa y espada.
Todas las fotografías son originales tomadas con mi teléfono Xiaomi Redmi 9.
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Greetings friends of Holos-lotus. I feel very grateful because I received invitations from some hivers to participate in this initiative that makes us reflect on certain situations in which we must assert our rights, to defend ourselves A Capa y Espada. I take this opportunity to invite @mcookies and @dayadam to participate.
I've always disagreed with injustice, with abuse, that we let go of our rights and that's why I've come to the conclusion that those are the right moments when we should defend ourselves tooth and nail. I remember as a child that my mother was a defender of her rights, she was a fighter, but she achieved her goals, especially when it came to asserting justice. She was persistent and very positive, so much so, that sometimes she seemed a bit exaggerated to me.
I, on the other hand, was initially very pessimistic, something that fortunately changed in me for the better. As a child it happened to me that I did not assert my rights, when I tried I was persuaded and in order not to argue I ended up giving the reason to that person. I felt incapable of defending myself because I cared more about "being or looking good", it was more important to be accepted, incredible, isn't it? The only way I could defend my point of view was if someone else in the group supported me, otherwise, my opinion was null.
I lacked security, a very important element, however, I myself began to realize my mistake, that I could not leave my defense to a third party, that I had to defend my convictions, decisions and above all, justice. I said to myself, "no more abuse".
In my work I have experienced situations that have put me on edge because of ill-intentioned actions, abuse of power that could have had very negative consequences to the point of affecting my job continuity. I never gave up, a co-worker told me "I die with my boots on, like a good soldier", while my motto was "as long as I live I defend myself with sword and sword and even more if there are injustices".
I experienced the abuse of power for some time in the company where I have been working for 14 years and 10 months, it was about 3 years approximately, a nightmare. It turns out that the Manager at that time wanted to "make us fall" to a group of 4 bosses to get rid of us or to make us resign, it was a horrible time where he had some employees that I was in charge of as accomplices. They sabotaged my work, gave me bad answers, it was a constant struggle and obviously they were defended by the management.
In fact, on one occasion one of them pressured me to resign if I did not leave, that is, he put my immediate boss to choose between me and him. I was not going to resign for anyone, my mother was sick with Alzheimer's disease and I needed the job, and even if my mother was healthy, how could I resign on someone else's whim? Immediately, I told him "if you want to leave, go, I am not going to resign", he immediately said that he was leaving and so he did, a few days later he resigned, but before that, he was in charge of spreading the word throughout the company that I was responsible for his departure. The people who approached me to talk to me about that unpleasant event were defending him, and I, for my part, clarified things for them, defending my position and my name to the hilt.
One of the expressions that I cannot stand because it has a derogatory and humiliating connotation is "I am the boss and here what I say is done" or "I am in charge here because I am the boss". Being the boss I never use it nor have I ever used it, however, once they used it with me.
It turns out that an employee complained about a leak in his cubicle and since the Superintendent liked him, she asked him to move to my cubicle and I to his. That decision was made without consulting me, I arrived one morning and found him in my cubicle, he himself was in charge of telling me that "he was not going to fix that leak", ah but I did, a total abuse. I went to talk to the Superintendent and she told me very upset that she made that decision because "she is the boss and you do what she says and that's it". I was speechless for a moment, but as soon as the mood calmed down I talked to her and told her that the fact of being Superintendent did not give her the right to abuse and yell at me, and that if she wanted to improve the condition of a worker's physical space it was not precisely by making another one worse, that is, mine. She apologized to me and the decision she made was to move the employee to another place while the leak was being solved and I returned to my job.
There are definitely things that are not worth spending energy on, however, there are situations in which we cannot allow outrage or injustice. This should not be confused with elevating our ego in a power struggle. It is about asserting our rights, without weighing, with bases and a lot of self-confidence to defend what is right with sword and sword.
All photos are originals taken with my Xiaomi Redmi 9 phone.
@hylene74