The purpose of anxiety is to control your life! This is why it is impossible to control it. It is an impulse design to control you in case of emergency in order to save your life. Trying to control it

We don't learn out of experience, nobody lacks experience except maybe baby's, if experience would be enough by itself to learn, everybody would be self actualized. The reality is that most people just

The paradox of change states that it is more likely to change in good, whenever you are satisfy wherever you are. It seems like a cruel game nature play with us, where the people that most desperately

The purpose of denial is to keep you partially functional whenever you find yourself trapped in abusive situations. You develope a selective blindspot to your pain you experience on a daily basis because

There are two ways to really hurt someone, both of them target the mind. The first one is violence, for example if you walk on a dark alley and someone puts a gun to your temple, it does so to induce anxiety

There is a reason why we find stories pleasurable, that is because we are trying to extract the wisdom out of it and apply it to our own lives in order to avoid the mistakes of the characters and emulate

As a part of our biology we are equipped with a mechanism to help us manage threats in our life, the so called fight-flight-freeze instincts. Whenever you can't either eliminate or get away from a threat

If you have problems establishing your boundaries, you actually have problem expressing your anger. As the purpose of anger is to create safety by making you defend your boundaries. It is the energy that

Life is always a tragedy no matter who you are or what do you accomplish, the ending is always sad. In real life there is not such thing as a happy ending, those exist only in fairy tales and movies. The

An "ashole" is someone how is willing to take advantage of other people's vulnerability for his own pleasure or benefit. I was originally intending to write a post on how to stop being an

Intimacy is the capacity to be yourself in the presence of other people. Generally speaking there are two reason to hide who you are either because you did something wrong and if people found out wouldn't

Hate is a healthy emotions, and almost impossible to avoid, we all hated someone or something through the course of our lives. Like most of the negative emotions unfortunately gets a bad connotation, when

Anxiety is part of the fight or flight mechanism. Whenever we encounter a threat, based on a quick assessment over our abilities and the situation we are in we chose to either fight the threat or run away

I recently find out about the tragic suicide of the lead singer of Soundgarden, Chris Cornell, one of my favorite band as a tenager. Which got me thinking about what is really the cause of suicide, the

Behind all self sabotaging behaviour there is suppressed anger. As anger is a self-preservation instinct, of which purpose is to create safety through defending your boundaries. Because it is a self

Acceptance is learning how to differentiate between what is normal and what is abuse. Under normal circumstances you accept what you can't change and resist what is changeable. There is a huge misconception,

Negativity is like the fiber from food, it doesn't give you any pleasure and the direct outcome of ingesting it is s**t, but because it was so present in everything that we ate we adapted to use it and

Camouflage has two purposes, defence and ambush. Animals like zebras develop striped patterns that makes it hard to distinguish individuals this increases their chances to survive in the case of an attack.

Depression is an emergency shutdown of your body, it is a way your body prevents you from wasting energy when the chances of success are very small. Another effect of the depression is introspection it